re: now he tells me

Quoting Rebecca Brown*:" Or did she do it simply because her boyfriend didn't want anything to do with it?"

There is nothing "simple" about making this choice.

If you ever need to talk, please PM me. I was in a situation a little bit like yours. So I know how it feels.

Quoting pretty 'n' pink:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" I would have slapped him.   Awh... ... [snip!] ... himself. I don't even know what to say. Did he want me to try and convince him not to feel bad? no sorry. Not gonna do that."

If you need someone to talk to about it you can private message me.. I know what it feels like to be in this space, I was there not to long ago too.. so was my DH.

Thank you for all your support. honestly I believe I did this for all the wrong reasons. because I had so many outside voices telling me I couldn't do it. And I believed them. I let the negative comments from friends and family crowd my head and didn't give myself time to think about what I really wanted and felt was right. I should have stood my ground and gone with my instincts.

Really? He's going to make you feel like smurf over 6 days? I'm sorry, hun. I hope you smacked him upside his thick head.

ouch! sounds like he's feeling guilty for his part and maybe he's looking for you to make him feel better- screw that. I doubt very much a few days would've made a difference to him. Let him live with his guilt. I'm sorry he said that to you as APs said I would've smacked him upside the head... prolly with a pan of some sort  

Quoting Rebecca Brown*:" Or did she do it simply because her boyfriend didn't want anything to do with it?"

Either way, it's done. There is absolutely no reason for you to be asking her these questions, she's upset enough, and it's not going to change anything.

Same here OP , I can chat just about any time   I was in a situation similar to this...not exactly, but close enough. Hang in there.

im sorry he said that too u. i hope it gets better for u guys soon.

Quoting pretty 'n' pink:" Thank you for all your support. honestly I believe I did this for all the wrong reasons. because I had ... [snip!] ... myself time to think about what I really wanted and felt was right. I should have stood my ground and gone with my instincts."

  Im sorry mama. <3 I wouldnt stay with a piece of crap like him....