Hubbs is bein a a**wad

He is still at work an just texted me that he wont be coming home tonite

says he has plans to go out with his friends to the bar to celebrate his buddy DJs birthday and its on the other side of town so he will just be sleeping over at his place

so i texted there other friends girlfriend who is also my friend and she says they are going to a strip club

when i texted hubs back and asked him about that he lied and told me they werent going to stripclub.

then he got real mad and and said i was spying on him and called me a bunch of nasty names

he even said
"you better shut your face or i wont be home tomarrow either"

Now im sitting here crying


hes not usally like this. he has called me a name once or twice in the passed but I dont know what has caused him to get so mad today

what should i do?
I have half a mind to show up at the strip club and makes his night hell

If my hubby ever said that to me, I'd punch him in the dick. No one shoud talk to you that way. Make sure he knows that's completely unacceptable and you won't tolerate it.

Quoting AppleDumplin:" He is still at work an just texted me that he wont be coming home tonite says he has plans to go out ... [snip!] ... has caused him to get so mad today what should i do? I have half a mind to show up at the strip club and makes his night hell"

Boy, he sounds real loving... Text him back, tell him to enjoy his smurfing night cause you aren't doing smurf for him anymore. like cook or do his laundry, until ya know, he kinda respects ya a little more.

Wow, asswad is the word. Douchebag is a pretty good one too. Tell him to enjoy his night, and the rest of his life if he's going to talk to you like that.

He didn't actually lie to you. He is going to a bar.

are you mad they're going to a strip club, or that he lied?

I would've told him not to worry about coming home tomorrow... or the next day... or the next.

Quoting Angel [Mariah's Mommy]:" He didn't actually lie to you. He is going to a bar. "

but when i asked him exactly with the word stripclub, he said no he was not going to a strip club

I would change the locks and tell him not to bother coming home.

Well that's super smurffy of him...
DH knows better than to lie about strip clubs because usually, I'm 100% for him going and usually I like to tag along and enjoy the performers myself. I <3 dancers so hardcore.
Why does he feel the need to lie about that though? Have yall spoken about strip clubs and your feelings towards them before? Maybe he feels like you'd have said no and wouldn't have let him go which is definitely no excuse even then for lying.
And it's definitely not cool that he told you to shut your face and threatened you with being gone. That's just...Yeah, that alone would have lead me to say "Stay your ass out then for a week, see if I give a smurf."

Quoting misanthrope:" I would change the locks and tell him not to bother coming home."

i want to
but we are having a baby together and i dont think that would be good

we had a fight like this once befor and i dint see him for a week. we almost broke up over it too.

big difference between a bar and strip club. normal bars don't have naked women around. If DH just straight up told me what they were doing, instead of lying and being sneaky, I wouldn't have such a problem with it. it's the fact that he lied, knowing you share friends and can easily find out and then being disrespectful to you is where there is a problem. I let SO know that if he wants a good relationship, honesty and respect is where it is at, because I'm not a lying bitch. Besides, I do his laundry and am carry his baby.

Quoting AppleDumplin:" i want to but we are having a baby together and i dont think that would be good we had a fight like this once befor and i dint see him for a week. we almost broke up over it too."

You having a baby together does not justify his behavior towards you.

I'd text him back and tell him he better get comfy on his friends couch because he will be spending a lot time there.

Quoting JiLLiAN.:" are you mad they're going to a strip club, or that he lied?"

i rather would go to strip clubs together. i dont really like it when he goes with out me and he knows this. he even says he was fine with that and wouldnt.

but my big problem is that he is lying to me!
and why is he lying?