re: Abortion at 14 weeks..

Quoting cupcakexo:" "

i only too one day off from work. i had it done on a friday and i didn't have to work that day anyway. i think i may have taken monday off. but that's it. i wasn't even bleeding heavily then. but... idk if it's like that for everyone.

regardless, i doubt you will have to take 3 weeks off. you might need a few days, but that's about it. but, yes, they do say nothing in the vagina for 2 weeks, including tampons and penises. so, by 3 weeks, you should be fine. you will/should be scheduled for a checkup appt after 4 weeks, i think, to make sure you've healed properly.

Usually by day 2 you feel about 90% better

Quoting MommaNoodle:" i only too one day off from work. i had it done on a friday and i didn't have to work that day anyway. ... [snip!] ... should be fine. you will/should be scheduled for a checkup appt after 4 weeks, i think, to make sure you've healed properly. "

ohh I am definitely not looking to have anything sexual with anyone for a long time after this thats for sure, but for work I am a dancer soo I just don't wanna have anything start bleeding at random while under bright lights if you know what i mean. They told me no exercise for two weeks so I say three as a percaution as I lift my entire body weight and its a lot of strain..but I am hoping nothing beyond 3 weeks. My day job though I will be fine at as I am sitting the entire time it just doesn't pay all the bills.

Quoting cupcakexo:" ohh I am definitely not looking to have anything sexual with anyone for a long time after this thats ... [snip!] ... nothing beyond 3 weeks. My day job though I will be fine at as I am sitting the entire time it just doesn't pay all the bills."

ahh ok. if it's dancing, then i guess i would feel the same way about possible leakage and stuff... but if you have other questions, i'm here. i had mine 2 years ago. i was about 7 weeks along and they said i was too far for the pill, so i had a surgical.

I think I am losing my mind over this, I could of sworn I felt it moving today but I think it's all in my head. I still am on the fence about things. I really hope that the decision I make is the right one..No one can make it for me but I wish they could. I am probably over reacting and over thinking everything but I am sure everyone has been through this as I know it isn't easy.. the lady at the clinic told me that there have been girls in there 8 or 9 times.. I cannot imagine that at all as this is hard enough..Maybe it is more simple than I think..

Quoting cupcakexo:" I think I am losing my mind over this, I could of sworn I felt it moving today but I think it's all in ... [snip!] ... been girls in there 8 or 9 times.. I cannot imagine that at all as this is hard enough..Maybe it is more simple than I think.. "

well, imo, it's never really going to be completely cut and dry, right or wrong. for me, as i said, i still have thoughts of "what if" or "i wonder". i assume they could be called a type of regret. it still makes me sad. but, at the same time, even with all those thoughts, i honestly know that the decision i made was the best one at the time. all things considered, it was the "right" thing for me to do then. now? obviously, i made a different choice (being that i am due to have a baby in april).

i can't make the decision for you, but you know that already. i can tell you what it's like for me now and how it was when it happened, but i can't tell you how it will be for you-- how you will feel, etc. but you know that too. all i can say is that whatever the choice you make, just know and remind yourself that it is the best choice you can make for you right now. if you choose to terminate, know that you decided what you did based on what you have, know, and feel now because that is all you/we can do. if you change your mind and choose to carry the child to term, know that that decision was based on the same-- your knowledge, feelings, resources for now because that too is all you can do.

i feel for you, i really do. i struggled with the decision as well, and even though i made my decision sooner than you did, it was still very very difficult. i wish i could help in some other way, but i am an ear if you ever need one. i hope you can come to a peaceful decision soon. i wish you that!

Thank you so much for the support and kind words and help. I could not go through with it today, I got dressed and ready and pulled into the parking lot with my supportive parents and just broke down. I am thinking I will look into private adoption if things don't pan our and I still feel unready for a child, I wish I could of had the courage today because now I feel a sense of regret for not going as it is my last chance the clinic providers told me. I definitely understand why people have this done and go through with it, and with everything that is sitting here tempting me for a better life and turn around had I of done this it just probably wasn't in whatever life plan for me either. It wasn't guilt or the protesters that deturred me, just a gut feeling over all...Might be the place (health code violations, friends story, etc) and had I the ability to travel further and would have researched more it might be different, but what's done is done now and just like having the procedure done, I can't take this decision back either just move forward..
thank you again you all are very wonderful, brave, supportive ladies. <3

Quoting rainbow_brite:" I have just now decided to stop looking at propoganda online and see if anybody out there that has been ... [snip!] ... that this is not how I want to spend the rest of my life or relying on him never being able to stand on my own two feet again."

If i was you i would keep the baby and get all parenatal rights to the baby. dont let this guy forever hurt you by you by having an abortion. My daughter had an abortion. which i have to say devestated me. but it has done more to my daughter. shes been on the phone to me with a heartfill devestation..sobbing her heart out. its something that will stay with her forever!!! once you do it you cant undo it. I dont know how these things work. but as far as i am aware the baby will be able to feel it at this stage. think about it carefully. once its done it cant be undone! i wish you luck no matter what you decide. i will be thinking of you.