ughhhhhhhhhggghhhhh...vent****wwyd?

So I have a really good friend, she is always there when I need her ect. Buuut. She is about to piss me the f off. She tries to override everything I say to my kids, she even spanked one of them the other day!!! Friend or not..you do NOT spank my kids. Then this morning, I woke up to my son crying, my husband was taking the kids to the school and she called my son an smurf!! Wtf! She has officially over stepped her boundaries...more so than a little...she is also over here all the time..including my husbands and I's FIRST wedding anniversary! I'm just pissed..I'm trying not to be because my husband thinks im over reacting and won't talk to her for me..and I can NOT talk to her with out exploding on her at this point...I am no longer even considering her a friend at this time...more of an annoyance that is mean to my kids...what would yall do? I cannot keep sitting through this..im literally going to go off like a crazy person on her! Uuuuggghhhhhhhhhh

I don't get it, she doesn't live with you yet she's in your house so early in the morning that you're still sleeping? Wtf?

Yeah. Her spanking your child would have pushed me over the edge. I would probably reconsider my friendship or at minimum talk to her about not hanging around so much. Is she living with you or something?

I would honestly call her and go off on her. You don't screw with mama bear.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Commander Shepard:</b>" Yeah. Her spanking your child would have pushed me over the edge. I would probably reconsider my friendship ... [snip!] ... reconsider my friendship or at minimum talk to her about not hanging around so much. Is she living with you or something?"</blockquote>




No just here all the flipping time!! She wanted to go with one of us to take the boys to school so she could pay a ticket on the way there

<blockquote><b>Quoting **§~~emily~~§**:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Commander Shepard:</b>" Yeah. Her spanking your child would ... [snip!] ... all the flipping time!! She wanted to go with one of us to take the boys to school so she could pay a ticket on the way there"</blockquote>


I'd honestly ditch her as a friend.

I would have made it VERY clear that our friendship was over the second she laid a hand on my child.

IF I were you, I`d just got ape smurf on her tbh, no one but me or SO lays a hand our kids. And no one will call our kids names.

I wish my husband would do something..she started out being his friend..but he doesbt see a problem... I'm just done! I almost attacked her the other day for spanking my son.. my kids are too important to me to wind up in jail over beating her friggin ass..I literally had my oldest go into my room, I shut the door and told her off for it..if I were younger I woukdnt have kept my composure like that

Not to sound rude but it's honestly your fault. If you won't speak up for yourself or your children how is she supposed to know what she's doing is bothering you and crossing lines? Just be a big girl and at the very least tell her that she needs to stop coming over so much. I personally wouldn't leave it at that. I would tell her I find her rude and obnoxious. That her presence is not ALWAYS welcome and that she's an inconsiderate person. And I would add that if she were to ever hit my child or call them out of their names again that she would have a problem on her hands. Probably best to do this over the phone after you've cooled down but I would do it TODAY.

I think you need to tell her to stay away, and I'd be pissed at DH for just letting smurf slide too.

Quoting Will☮Creedence:" I think you need to tell her to stay away, and I'd be pissed at DH for just letting smurf slide too."

Be pissed at him for what? That's her friend. She should have been the one to speak up. I wouldn't even put my husband in that mess. She specifically said "won't talk to her FOR ME" Why should he talk for her as if she's not an adult?

Edit: I didn't see her post saying she started out being his friend. In that case he should say something but its probably not bothering him like it is the mom. So OP you should take the lead on this because it's offending you. I would only get mad if he contradicted me to her or made it seem like less of a deal than it is.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brendan&Bethany'sMom:</b>" Be pissed at him for what? That's her friend. She should have been the one to speak up. I wouldn't even ... [snip!] ... husband in that mess. She specifically said "say something to her FOR ME" Why should he talk for her as if she's not an adult? "</blockquote>



If you read what she wrote, the girl was DHs friend originally and then obviously they became friends as well. If it was one of DHs friends that I'd become friends with along the way I'd still expect him to handle it.
On top of that, if it was my friend and not DHs friend I would STILL be mad that he didn't care at all.

Quoting Will☮Creedence:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Brendan&Bethany'sMom:</b>" Be pissed at him for what? That's ... [snip!] ... him to handle it. On top of that, if it was my friend and not DHs friend I would STILL be mad that he didn't care at all."

I edited my post... didn't see her post stating it was his friend first. But I still stand by what I said. Her behavior is offending mom, not dad apparently. I guess I just don't have a problem speaking up for myself and my children. I wouldn't rely on anyone else to do it or expect them to... even the father. Especially to another woman. Maybe if it was a man I would want him to take the lead. I just don't get why involve him if it's bothering you.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brendan&Bethany'sMom:</b>" I edited my post... didn't see her post stating it was his friend first. But I still stand by what I ... [snip!] ... woman. Maybe if it was a man I would want him to take the lead. I just don't get why involve him if it's bothering you. "</blockquote>

It would bother me that it wasn't bothering him though lol
And yeah I feel a little different. If it was a male friend of mine I wouldn't expect DH to say something just because he's a guy, I would say something because he's my friend.