re: ughhhhhhhhhggghhhhh...vent****wwyd?

Quoting Will☮Creedence:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Brendan&Bethany'sMom:</b>" I edited my post... didn't see her ... [snip!] ... friend of mine I wouldn't expect DH to say something just because he's a guy, I would say something because he's my friend."

That's odd lol. But I do agree that it would bother me that it wasn't bothering him that someone other than us was hitting our children and calling them out their names. But I wouldn't be "pissed" I would definitely talk to him though.

I have told her ..in a calm way, I went off on her for spanking him, none of that has worked because my husband thinks its fine, which is why I want him to deal with it. And it makes me livid that he thinks its ok, I really feel he just doesn't care to be honest because he has never bonded that well with my oldest. It seems the only times he sticks up for Gabriel is when it is his father being a piece of crap to him. This has been a HUGE issue in our marriage ..the fact that he doesn't care enough about my oldest..he has gotten better but still needs to work on it...anyways though, yes it is his friend, I became friends with her when she started coming over .. I just don't know if I could keep my composure, and the way my temper us..I cannot trust myself at this point to talk to her without literally going off...I'm wayyyyy protective over my children ..especially with people calling names and hitting, because I was treated that way when I was little by my parents and their friends and it sucked. I'm just sick of her bullcrap.

<blockquote><b>Quoting **§~~emily~~§**:</b>" I have told her ..in a calm way, I went off on her for spanking him, none of that has worked because ... [snip!] ... because I was treated that way when I was little by my parents and their friends and it sucked. I'm just sick of her bullcrap."</blockquote>

Tell her to stop coming over and tell DH to stand by you. I mean honestly if you don't want her around your kids because she's treating them smurffy and he's blatantly disregarding your feelings and your kids feelings I would tell him he needed to chose between you and her and make him cut ties. That is NOT cool.

Sorry you are in such a stress situation mama, if someone was calling my kids names or spanking them or even not giving my family personal space I would be beyond angry. I would just tell her that you need space that the hitting and the name calling has made you so angry that having her around in your home is making you uncomfortable and unhappy. Have your SO there.. Would he support you enough to be present for that?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Smokey_Taboo:</b>" Sorry you are in such a stress situation mama, if someone was calling my kids names or spanking them ... [snip!] ... in your home is making you uncomfortable and unhappy. Have your SO there.. Would he support you enough to be present for that?"</blockquote>




I hope so, I am going to talk to him after we get off work today about it all.. I hope this go around he listens for once... I'm very fearful of our marriage ending because of all this..not because od just this, but because its like he never stands by me like a husband should

Well, while you're busy concerning yourself with overreacting when addressing her... She's busy mistreating your kids. I also do not believe in having another woman around my man, constantly. But, you didn't ask for advice in that area. I just wonder how many other boundaries she's over stepping?

<blockquote><b>Quoting ShondaNicole:</b>" Well, while you're busy concerning yourself with overreacting when addressing her... She's busy mistreating ... [snip!] ... my man, constantly. But, you didn't ask for advice in that area. I just wonder how many other boundaries she's over stepping?"</blockquote>




None like that, we have a very good relationship when it comes to trust, he has never gave me a reason not to..I know a lot of women say this but he is really one of a kind with faithfulness...its the standing by me no matter what Is the problem

I was also beat friends with him when he was married before, I know how he is in that department...he HATED her and never cheated..why would he cheat on someone that he loves?

Quoting **§~~emily~~§**:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ShondaNicole:</b>" Well, while you're busy concerning yourself ... [snip!] ... before, I know how he is in that department...he HATED her and never cheated..why would he cheat on someone that he loves?"

What's the difference in being faithful and standing by your side? I don't think there is a difference.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brendan&Bethany'sMom:</b>" What's the difference in being faithful and standing by your side? I don't think there is a difference. "</blockquote>




I think she meant she doesn't worry about him cheating on her with another woman, but he has hard time backing her up, standing up for her, etc

<blockquote><b>Quoting тᴀỵ 29:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Brendan&Bethany'sMom:</b>" What's the difference in being faithful ... [snip!] ... she doesn't worry about him cheating on her with another woman, but he has hard time backing her up, standing up for her, etc"</blockquote>




This.

The moment she laid a hand on my kid I would have ripped her face off. If she is at your house all the time why don't you tell her to leave? I'm Not understanding why you have let her over step the boundaries this long.