re: Marriage and Sex

Quoting Devil's Advocate:" All I can say is either everything really IS fine or he's holding back on something. Either way, pressing ... [snip!] ... do it first. Even when you've been together forever. They always want to feel security when they open up like that. Man pride."

Yes man pride gets in the way of everything. And we talk about everything. Can't necessarily go out like we'd like to. We just have alot of financial troubles right now. Complete fail on electric. Got to come up with money for that. And we always try to find 1 night a week without any babies or anything going on. We talk all the time. He is a sensitive guy (even though you so wouldn't think it if you saw him). He was raised around women his whole life. His mom was a lesbian for almost 20 years....and his "Dad" is a woman.

But for some reason...the subject of sex is just hard to get him to talk about. I mean he's a freak when it comes down to it....but it's like he's reserved talking about it. I didn't know why he got mad at me for not letting him eat me out until it blew up one night in a drunken arguement. And I definitely don't want this situation to end up like that. BAD night.

Quoting !Randa Roo!:" Yes man pride gets in the way of everything. And we talk about everything. Can't necessarily go out ... [snip!] ... until it blew up one night in a drunken arguement. And I definitely don't want this situation to end up like that. BAD night."

Some people are uncomfortable talking about what they want sexually. How long have you been married? It might take a while. Also, men take on stress completely differently than we do. Women tend to be open about their worries where as men don't like to talk about it. That stress could be weighing on him right now too.

Quoting Devil's Advocate:" Some people are uncomfortable talking about what they want sexually. How long have you been married? ... [snip!] ... to be open about their worries where as men don't like to talk about it. That stress could be weighing on him right now too."

We've been together for 2 years now, married for 1 in april

Stuck his blls

Quoting !Randa Roo!:" We've been together for 2 years now, married for 1 in april"

It may take more time and maybe it's just part of his personality. Have you tried asking him what he wants from you while in the heat of the moment?

Also, if he really wants to go down on you, I'd let him. I know you mentioned your reservations about it from his previous relationship but you are his wife and he loves you and obviously loves doing it. Compromise  

Quoting Devil's Advocate:" It may take more time and maybe it's just part of his personality. Have you tried asking him what he ... [snip!] ... about it from his previous relationship but you are his wife and he loves you and obviously loves doing it. Compromise  "

Yeah. Like I said....talking about it...eh.

Oh and as far and letting him go down on me...totally passed that bridge with flying colors and he won the award. lol