DID you forgive SO for cheating

im not asking if you would forgive your partner for ever cheating on you..

but the real question is DID you forgive them for cheating?

SO cheated on me and even though he finally admitted to it and we took a break i took him back but a part of me cant just forget about it and when i think about it i get so angry


how did you guys work past the infidelity?

I had a so cheat on me once. I said I forgave him, and tried to move on, but I couldn't forget. I couldn't let it go, and we eventually broke up a year later because I was tired of being disgusted every time I looked at him because I couldn't let it go.

I did with one of my exs.. It obviously didn't work. Because the trust was already broken. Always second guessing him and fearing he was looking at other women. And of course. He did it again, and again, and again, and again. Stupid me kept taking his ass back. Biggest mistake I ever did.

I have never forgiven a cheater since.

My hubby never cheated on me, but I did catch him laying on some bitches couch when I got home and he was completely drunk. I know how my husband is though. He doesn't talk to people when he's drunk besides when he wants them to buy him another beer.

But just for him being at her house, he got punched quite a few times and learned his lesson. I felt like it was complete disrespect.

If he would have cheated on me, it would have been over in a second. I will not put up with that smurf.

You never forget, you may forgive but it's always on the back of your mind, you will think of it less and less over time.. but it's always there.

he swears it was just dates and it never got to sex.. but i have a hard time even believing it but im trying my best to work past it.. im hoping talking to a therapist about it might help

I said I forgave him (DS's dad :/) but I never really did and he continued to cheat on me so I finally left him and it was the best decision I made.

I did but he kept on cheating....

I forgave him only because I could tell he was very upset by what he did. I could tell for days something wasnt right. He seemed really sad and depressed and kept saying things like "your so beautiful and I dont deserve you" but then when I asked why he would say that he would just say "because". I ended up finding out because he thought I was sleeping one night and kissed my forehead. When I oppened my eyes he was crying and it all came out. It was really hard after that though. I would find myself snooping through his phone while he was sleeping and not wanting him to go anywhere with out me. Even though logic said he wouldnt do it again I was still scared.

Quoting JessicaMatlock :" he swears it was just dates and it never got to sex.. but i have a hard time even believing it but im trying my best to work past it.. im hoping talking to a therapist about it might help"

Honestly, if he was TRULY honest about what they did, it wouldn't make it any better or worse... knowing the real truth would only torture yourself.. and if he truly wants to make it work... he wouldn't do that to you.

I think couples counseling, him doing everything he can to give back the trust, and TIMEEEEE.. is the only thing that will help.

Yes I did. My DH and I have been together 8 1/2 years and about 6 1/2 yrs ago he had a one time, one night stand. It absolutely crushed me to a million pieces. He didn't tell me right away, but did later. He was so afraid I would leave so I didn't fine out till a year after and then he told me, the woman had opened her mouth and it got back to me and he knew he had to just let it all out. It was VERY HARD for me to forgive him, but I did/have. I never could stop loving him and I knew deep down he was a good man who had made a terrible mistake.

im hoping time will make it better.. he said its because i became unaffectionate, he was stressed about the baby and needed the comfort..

I do love him and i wish he could understand i cant just wake up forgiving him and it takes time.. but he wants everythign to go back to how ot was before all this.. i did end things with him for a bit while i figured things out and were back together and i find my self showing up randomly to make sure he is where he is.. asking him to show me every time someone text him (most times its family) and he turns the speakerphone on for phone calls..

i just wish he didnt do it

I know greg is a good man.. and i know he loves me and Kaylee i find my self looking at the engagement ring wondering if im doing the right thing by marrying him sometimes... i dont know if its the pregnancy or not

Quoting Ur Local Frnt Desk Clrk:" You never forget, you may forgive but it's always on the back of your mind, you will think of it less and less over time.. but it's always there."

True.

Its been 6 1/2 nearly 7 yrs and I have completely forgiven him and as the years go by it doesn't cross my mind as much as it use too, and I do have trust for him, not 100 % ( since I have learned "never" CAN happen ) but I trust him a little more, more as the yrs go by.

how did you guys work past the infidelity?

I found out after SO proposed to me before last christmas. It was terrible.
Some chick texted him saying "WTF you are engaged?" Well he had been talking to her all cute and what not for a couple weeks (She screen shotted her texts). So I confronted her and all hell broke loose, she told me everything he had said to her, then she screen shotted a message some chick sent her saying that she was sorry for me and that after we got together he had talked to her like that.

Well after talking to girl number two she told me he slept with her in june/july. We got together in May, and I didn't find out until December.

Time was the best thing we used. We were crazy in love at that point which helped too. If it had happened after he told me he loved me then I really don't know that it could have worked.

It still hurts and I am not 100% over it, I still bring it up at times, and this last December was hard on our relationship.

But I love SO and I have never said this about anyone else and it just sounds so corny, but I couldn't picture my life without him at this point.