Quoting ashley + 2:" I don't want to leave. That's the problem. I just want him to give a damn again. It's like he has ... [snip!] ... again. It's like he has become the most selfish person lately. We still have good times but not very many. I just am so lost."
I so understand..then its not time to leave. Its going to suck for while and hurt but you have to keep trying till you cant try anymore. I know people say no body should ever endure that in a marriage but that's why many fail. Because they give up too easy and think they must be happy 24/7. It takes work and its HARD. I watched my parents. They are hitting 30 years this year. My dad was a drug addict and an smurf. Left my mom with two kids to raise. But she wasn't done with the realationship and this went on for 15 years. My dad has been sober for 12 years now and their marriage is pretty awesome. Took SOOO much work and even kinda made my brother and I suffer a bit. But now that we are older we very much appreciate the example they gave us. But its ultimately your choice on how you want it to go. I wish you the best of luck. Keep being persistent. He hast to open his eyes sometime or another.