BD rant.

It's been a month since we split up and he hasn't been to see DD once, nor offered me any money to pay for her things and he knows money is very tight for me atm. He's even stopped texting to ask how she is and stuff. I just don't understand how someone can walk away from their own child?! I could never do that, if it were the other way round and he left with her, I would do anything I could to see her :/ he's already moved back into student accommodation and started going out getting drunk all the time again. I don't know what I ever saw in him. I'm just sad DD will grow up without a father   how do I explain it to her when she's old enough to understand? I didn't want this for my baby... I feel like such a lousy mother right now even though it's not my fault he's an asshat.

Take him to court for child support. I think you can go through social services and they can help you, im not sure about a lawyer but he helped make that child he needs to help raise that child instead of partying all the time.

Just make sure you love her enough for two parents.

My DD's biological father has never met her. She has a great daddy now. I still don't know how I'm going to explain it to her when she's older. But you have enough love for two! You're not a bad mother. *hugs*

Quoting Commander Shepard:" My DD's biological father has never met her. She has a great daddy now. I still don't know how I'm going ... [snip!] ... know how I'm going to explain it to her when she's older. But you have enough love for two! You're not a bad mother. *hugs*"

Thank you   I suppose as long as she knows she has me and I love her then she will be happy enough. I don't even know if it's worth getting him to pay child support because it's not like he's going to see her :/

Quoting Ellie Shikari:" It's been a month since we split up and he hasn't been to see DD once, nor offered me any money to pay ... [snip!] ... I didn't want this for my baby... I feel like such a lousy mother right now even though it's not my fault he's an asshat."

Aw, mama. My daughter doesn't know her biological father. She is turning four this month. He's had nothing to do with her at all. Luckily, I was blessed with an awesome guy who I'll be marrying soon. She refers to him as "daddy." He's always been there for her and that's what earns the title of dad. Hang in there. <3

Quoting BeginTheRomance:" Aw, mama. My daughter doesn't know her biological father. She is turning four this month. He's had ... [snip!] ... soon. She refers to him as "daddy." He's always been there for her and that's what earns the title of dad. Hang in there. <3"

Ahh that's sweet, I hope I can have that some day  

Quoting Ellie Shikari:" Ahh that's sweet, I hope I can have that some day   "

You will! I thought I was going to be a single mom forever, haha. It happens when you least expect it. You'll find someone who loves YOU for you and most of all who loves your little one just as much. I'm so thankful I never went back to her father. Would have been the worst mistake of my life. Good luck!

Quoting BeginTheRomance:" You will! I thought I was going to be a single mom forever, haha. It happens when you least expect ... [snip!] ... one just as much. I'm so thankful I never went back to her father. Would have been the worst mistake of my life. Good luck! "

I hope so, although either way I know I am strong enough to get through it. Just wish she had a father figure in her life but I suppose time will tell. Thank you

Quoting Ellie Shikari:" It's been a month since we split up and he hasn't been to see DD once, nor offered me any money to pay ... [snip!] ... I didn't want this for my baby... I feel like such a lousy mother right now even though it's not my fault he's an asshat."

You're not a lousy mother, he's just not making the right choices right now. Unfortunetely, you can't force someone to be a good, involved parent.

Child support to help you to raise her is for your child and is required in every state. This is for her, not you. She has two parents.

He may come around, or not, but she will be fine with you either way. You are a good mother who is doing the right thing by raising your daughter and loving her.