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I'd just do the one party. Everyone else is acting like they're the ones who are three.

I'd just do one party. The grandparents need to stop being petty and put on their big girl panties long enough to attend your DD's party. It's only a few hours out if their day

One party. If the adults can't set aside their petty problems for the sake of their Grandchild, that's sad and they should be ashamed.

Quoting kate & tilly:" I'd just do the one party. Everyone else is acting like they're the ones who are three."

I agree. I feel like they should be able to set aside their problems for a few hours to celebrate their grandchild's birthday. It happens once a year lol.

I would have the one party and make it clear that there will be no more little parties later... its pretty petty they cant come together for even an hour for the sake of their grandchild

Quoting clay matthews:" I'd just do one party. The grandparents need to stop being petty and put on their big girl panties long enough to attend your DD's party. It's only a few hours out if their day"

this!!!!!!

One party, the grandparents are all adults and can suck it up and go to their her birthday party.

I would hold one party and tell them that they are all invited should they choose to attend. I would also tell them that if they choose not to be grown ups and come for the few hours to celebrate their grandchild's birthday then they don't get to do it later either. You're not going through te trouble of planning and throwing a birthday party for them to blow it off like it doesn't matter and throw their own thing later.
My mother and mil did this for my son's first birthday party and it just really ruined the day. Having to do two separate parties and trying to out do one another. Obnoxious. Now (my mil and mom get along great now but my parents recently went through a very missy divorce) we throw one party and tell them to be there or don't bother. It's a child's birthday party, I don't care if you're comfortable, I want my child to have all the people who love him/her around them at once and have a great day. It's not about the grandparents.

Don't be an enabler & play into their foolishness. Do one party & let people do whatever they are going to do. NO way would I put myself or my kid out over it. They really ought to feel silly for acting like this at their ages.

Quoting MommaSav2:" I would hold one party and tell them that they are all invited should they choose to attend. I would ... [snip!] ... my child to have all the people who love him/her around them at once and have a great day. It's not about the grandparents."

That's how I feel. If I do 3 seperate then everyone wants to have theirs first, and gets jealous of who does what and tries to one up eachother! It's so annoying.

<blockquote><b>Quoting 3 little monkeys ♥:</b>" That's how I feel. If I do 3 seperate then everyone wants to have theirs first, and gets jealous of who does what and tries to one up eachother! It's so annoying."</blockquote>

Yup it's really upsetting. Just tell them that if they think their petty issues are more important than celebrating their granddaugter's birthday, and they cant just get iver it for a few hours a year, then it's their loss and you won't be accommodating them with separate parties and celebrations. That's what I had to tell my parents. So sad that they can't just be grown ups for three hours a year.

Quoting 3 little monkeys ♥:" My daughter is turning 3 on Saturday. My parents are divorced and sometimes they get along, sometimes ... [snip!] ... do then you're welcome to come tell her happy birthday another time and bring her present over if that's what you wish to do. "

i have the same problem. i'd have one and tell them to grow up and put up with it for their granddaughter or miss out.