So here is the rant. Some language.

This is what I have been dealing with off and on for the past 8 months. It hasn't been all that fun. I am not going to say that I have handled everything perfectly, because I haven't. I think I am doing better though. Warning, this is long, and it includes copies of text messages, so grammar is not perfect. You can get a little bit more of my history from my last post back in November.


On the 18th, the ex called and said she wanted to see our son on the 19th. She hasn't seen him yet this year, and even though it was my weekend, I thought it would be nice for him to see her. I didn't have any plans, so I just cleaned out the refrigerator when he was gone. It had needed it for a while. She started sending texts a little after 1030 in the morning. I probably could have been less of a dick, but I pretty much refuse to go to her house. Whenever I get anywhere near the guy she's with I get so angry I start shaking. It is a situation I would like to avoid.

As a side note, She had called earlier in the week to let me know that one of the windows in her car had been broken out while she was at work. It is legally my car, but I let her use it for 3 months after the divorce was finalized so she had time to find something else to drive. She has to return it at the end of January.


Her: The back of my car is covered in glass. I dont want to drive jack around with it until I can get it all out. Would you be able to drop him off somewhere over here? I cant borrow a car atm.

Me: Why don't you vacuum it?

Her: I thought I got it all, but one of my friends got hurt yesterday from a shatd of glass.

Me: Try again. I'll meet you in gorst.

Her: Well youre going to have to give me time to borrow a car then.

Me: He's going to be strap into a car seat. He won't be in any danger.

Her: Do you want to get in the back to strap thw seat in?

Me: I will. He you properly cleaned it there shouldn't be any problems

Her: I sure as hell dont. My hand is fu cked up enough right now.

Me: ?

Her: Well obviously I missed some small shards if my friend hurt himself. Im not going to drive ei ther of the kids around in it until I clean it more.

Me: Then clean it. It has been 4 days.

Her: And my first day off. Its not up to you when its cleaned for another 3 weeks.

Me: 12 days. And laziness isn't a valid excuse not to pick t your son.

Her: 12. then you can have it and clean it all you want. Until then, its going to be about 30 minutes until I can borrow a car. Ill meet you in ghorst.

Me: ok

Me: Let me know when you are on the way.


We transferred him into her boyfriend's car with no issues after this.


On the way to pick him up at the end of the day, I received the following messages:



Her: I cant find his coat.

Me: Really?

Her: Is it in your car?

Me: Nope. I don't have it.

Her: I dont think I grabbed it from you.

At this point I met her in Ghorst. Her boyfriend/ex-husband was driving. I was a little pissed at this point and tried to calmly say that I didn't have the coat, and I remember putting it on him when we transferred him into her car earlier today. She promptly said I was wrong and a liar, and that being angry over a coat was childish. I suppose it isn't the greatest thing to be angry about, but I think it was more the lack of concern for the well being of our child and the blaming that really got me going. It has been in the 30's all week, and my son just got over a case of the flu. I left for home shortly after that. As I was pulling into my driveway, the following text was sent:I then went inside and continued the conversation with my amazing 4 year old flip phone.

Her: Found it.

I then went inside and continued the conversation with my amazing 4 year old flip phone.

Me: Ya.

Her: Youre such a child.

Me: When can I get it back.

Her: Whenever you feel like getting it.

Me: Bring it by my house tomorrow morning.

Her: I dont think so.

Me: So, you forget your son jacket, blame of* for it being gone, call of* a liar when I say you have it, call me a child when i get angry that you lost it. *of should have been me*

Me: And then you expect of* to take care of it for you?

Her: Youre so angry about a jacket

Me: It is cold outside and he is a 2 year old child that just got over the flu. AbsoluteLy.

Her: Ill give it to you when I can.

Me: Tomorrow.

Her: My god, calm down. Im sure its not his only jacket. Put a blanket ver him in the morning like you do with his jacket.

Her: Ill get it to you later.

Her: Assert your dominance once more, I didnt catch it the first time. Ill leave it with my sister. I have work at 2.

Her: Or you can pick it up once you manage to locate your testicles.

Me: Mostly trying to avoid jail time.

Her: Like you would even. I think youre the only one who is resentful enough to even try fighting. Its so smurfing petty.

Her: No one cares. You make an ass of yourself when you act like this.

Me: Only to people that don't matter.

Her: For people that dont matter you let us work you up so badly. I dont even have to try.

Me: That is pretty much why 4 an so pissed. You don't even try.

shes sounds really smurffy to deal with. I'd say shes the childish one IMO

  im glad i was eating popcorn for that JK... anyways uh yeah my ex and i speak the same way.. its marvelous

Quoting Mrs.Josh Ramsay:"   im glad i was eating popcorn for that JK... anyways uh yeah my ex and i speak the same way.. its marvelous"

ya my parents hated each other almost the whole time they were married after my brother passed and they still get along....some what.

she sounds rather childish.....

I didn't get his coat today either. In her defense, she is 9 years younger than me (23 and 32). It was a terrible mistake on my part to get involved with her in the first place. I just tried to do the right thing and take care of my son.

My sister lives in port orchard as well! I miss Washington   anyhow it does sound pretty childish on both parts. Maybe consider acting like the bigger person. I can see how it could be frustrating but you both are going to have to deal with each other for a long time so try to pick your battles.

My ex made our custody scdeucle and he texts me this morning says
HIm:Can I take Bree for a bit today like now
Him: Hello
Me:uh why
Him: where the smurf are my kids
Me: With me.. whats your problem today
Him: I want to know now
Him: If you left again im charging you and were going to court (will exsplaiin down)
Him: I want my daughter
Me: Im at my moms smartass and stop being ignorant and it's my day..
Me: Stop threating me, I need to know why you think you need her today?
Him:Nvm than
Me: Exactly.
HIm" I was going to take her to my mom and dads if you must know.
Me: Yeah i do kinda need to know when its my day, and you dont have to be rude and I heard you already have a lawyer
Me:Thats all you have to say is I want to take her to my moms.. Im not a bitch.
Him: No I don't

So i go get my daughter all dressed and ready to go and he says never mind its to cold Like really dude, we have three kids but he was just wanting the baby.

Also i had moved an hour away for a month trying to build a better life and i was brining thekids down on weekends (he works all week) but moved back for my kids well being.

But yeah thats how we talk lovely aint it

Quoting Just Andria:" My sister lives in port orchard as well! I miss Washington   anyhow it does sound pretty childish on ... [snip!] ... how it could be frustrating but you both are going to have to deal with each other for a long time so try to pick your battles."

You are right there. I need to just back off and not respond to the jabs. This was the first time we had seen her in almost a month though...I just need to calm down a bit. It is kind of hard considering how things happened though.

<blockquote><b>Quoting mephi:</b>" I didn't get his coat today either. In her defense, she is 9 years younger than me (23 and 32). It was ... [snip!] ... mistake on my part to get involved with her in the first place. I just tried to do the right thing and take care of my son."</blockquote>



I'm not yet 22 and I don't act like that.

What's the custody agreement? IMO if she's going to act like that I wouldn't give her visitation on your days any more.

<blockquote><b>Quoting mephi:</b>" You are right there. I need to just back off and not respond to the jabs. This was the first time we ... [snip!] ... seen her in almost a month though...I just need to calm down a bit. It is kind of hard considering how things happened though. "</blockquote>

Any separation is hard. I don't know your back story though. You don't need to be ok with how things happened and its ok to be bitter about it. Just don't give her the satisfaction of seeing you like that. I know how hard it is for dads in Washington to get custody in the first place so you must be doing something right. Maybe next time send him with a checklist so you get everything back otherwise don't send him in thing you expect back. Hang in there!

She sounds like an irresponsible bitch. Losing her two year olds coat and sending him out in the cold and expecting you to just throw a blanket over him? It should be extremely important to her that her child is properly clothed. She needs to stop being petty and put aside her feelings for the well being of her son. If she cared about him she would have brought the coat back to you ASAP.

Custody agreement is every other weekend and Wednesdays. She sees him for a few hours every few weeks. I'm usually not too strict since the visitation is so infrequent. December was a little better than some of the other months, but average is 12 hours per month, right around 100 hours since she moved out at the end of May. Yes I keep track of all of this.

She just brought the coat back over by the way.