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I dont know if this is the right spot. But i need other peoples thoughts. I have a 1 and 4 yr old boys. We moved to a new town a few months ago. I have met a couple people but i feel like everybody hates me because my kids misbehave. My 4 yr old has gotten this awful attitude lately and kot listening. And my 1 yr old just yeaterday as we were lwaving the house of someone we just met goes to give her 18 month old a hug and then started hitting him in the face repeatedly. (until i made it to the other side of the room to stop him) and just kept trying to do it on our way out. I feel like such an awful mother and THAT IS MY ONLY JOB. i just feel like i cant do anything right. And i will never have a friend again. So alone. Feel like giving up. Just want to run away. As of now i am hiding from my kids in my bedroom hoping they dont find me. I cant take them anywhere without being humiliated by their actions and feeling judged by every wandering eye. I dont know what to do anymore.

I have no advice, but that does suck.
I know I have stopped hanging out with friends because their children are terrorists. I'm sure it gets better once they are older. Good luck.

What is your method of discipline? Or redirection for your one year old?

We have tried everything with our 4 yr old. Timeouts privileges positive reinforcement spankings magnet boards. We are actually talking about raking away eveything he owns. All of it. He can have a bed a blanket clothes and somewhere to put them. Things are privileges and you dont get privileges if you cant treat people with respect. The baby i dont know what to do qith a hitter. My oldest never was. I grab his hand and hold it for a couole secobds and say no hitting and that works temporarily

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" I have no advice, but that does suck. I know I have stopped hanging out with friends because their children are terrorists. I'm sure it gets better once they are older. Good luck. "</blockquote>



Uh way to make her feel better. :-/

Quoting °NoName™°¯\_(ツ)_/¯:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" I have no advice, but that does suck. I know ... [snip!] ... terrorists. I'm sure it gets better once they are older. Good luck. "</blockquote> Uh way to make her feel better. :-/"

I didn't realise that was my job. Sorry.

Quoting khaynette:" I dont know if this is the right spot. But i need other peoples thoughts. I have a 1 and 4 yr old boys. ... [snip!] ... anywhere without being humiliated by their actions and feeling judged by every wandering eye. I dont know what to do anymore."

that totally sucks, my heart goes out to you
i haven't experienced anything like this, but logically, there are two possibilities;
1. your kids require special attention or help that you aren't providing. maybe your oldest needs a therapist? medication?
2. your kids are perfectly ordinary, average, healthy kids but you don't know how to control them. this is fine, no reflection on you as a person. i sure as smurf wouldn't know how to control two boy toddlers!
point being, is #2 is a skill set like any other. you CAN learn it. read some books. try new discipline methods. go to a professional, ask for for tips. persist, persist, keep trying. you CAN learn. you WILL get them under control and get to live the life you wanted.

good luck !!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" I didn't realise that was my job. Sorry. "</blockquote>




*realize* But I guess being a bitch is so much more fun

Quoting °NoName™°¯\_(ツ)_/¯:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" I didn't realise that was my job. Sorry. "</blockquote> *realize* But I guess being a bitch is so much more fun"

Thanks but it's also spelt realise, so there is no need to correct me  .

Saying I had no advice and telling her the situation I've been in and wishing her luck is no where near being a bitch. I'm sorry but you are being overly sensitive about nothing.