Quoting iLL-Legal Alien:" I'm sitting here wondering how can you be with someone like that...I would flip my smurf if DH acted that ... [snip!] ... family. That is absolutely ridiculous....there's no way in hell I would let my kids grow up around such a controlling smurf."
I do flip my smurf. Before, when it was just us (and we were not ever planning to have children, never ever), he would kind of get into that and I'd tell him they were my family and even if they had issues and were a hassle sometimes, there would never be a cut off situation. It didn't matter as much because we both just did what we wanted where my family was concerned -- I went to holidays and get togethers with them and he stayed home (or went and complained and was hostile the whole time). Now there is a child and I really don't want to bring her up around him acting like that and treating my family that way. He literally told me yesterday that if something ever happened to me, my family would never see her. I mean they are some dysfunctional people, sometimes extreme -- but not even like supervised visits at mcDonald's or something, just that they would NEVER see her at all. I got so upset I didn't talk to him for the rest of the day. Still haven't.