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Quoting Victoria051712:" The way i look at it she killed her baby why lie yeah people may look down on her but she don't need to lie it was her choice and they should get over it"

It doesn't matter what she did, if she feels the need to say she had a miscarriage then fine. It's her business and hers alone.

Quoting Third Time Mommy:" This is my not some random person I don't know, this is my SIL, I've know her for years, I see her almost ... [snip!] ... through a late term miscarriage with a child you actually wanted, and that's what she is making people think happened."

Again THAT IS HER BUSINESS! Is it wrong, maybe, is it your place to call her out no. It doesn't matter how long you've known her or how close you are. It is her choice, stay out of something you have no business in.

Quoting Victoria051712:" I did read it."

So, do you understand that shaming people about the decisions they make may encourage them to lie or mislead people?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Third Time Mommy:</b>" I'm sorry for that."</blockquote>




Not your post, the replies have gotten a little off basis.

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" I agree. I apologize if any of my comments offended anyone. I just believe that a loss is a loss...regardless of the method."</blockquote>




Thank you for apologizing. I just think the debate whether this is a loss of not is totally wrong to have in this forum.

Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" <blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" I agree. I apologize if any of my comments ... [snip!] ... Thank you for apologizing. I just think the debate whether this is a loss of not is totally wrong to have in this forum."

I agree completely. There were a couple of us trying to point that out....although, I was being far less polite than I should have been in a protected forum.

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" I agree completely. There were a couple of us trying to point that out....although, I was being far less polite than I should have been in a protected forum."</blockquote>




I'm happy you realize it   I mean I understand the point of everyone's comments but it would be better in a D&D you know?

Quoting ღ.ღ.ღ:" Again THAT IS HER BUSINESS! Is it wrong, yes, is it your place to call her out no. It doesn't matter ... [snip!] ... doesn't matter how long you've known her or how close you are. It is her choice, stay out of something you have no business in."

If you got to read my OP, I said that I did not nor did I plan to say anything, because it was not my place, I think some people clearly missed that.

Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Third Time Mommy:</b>" I'm sorry for that."</blockquote> Not your post, the replies have gotten a little off basis."

Right.

Quoting Third Time Mommy:" If you got to read my OP, I said that I did not nor did I plan to say anything, because it was not my place, I think some people clearly missed that. "

I know but the way you worded somethings about your friend having late term miscarriages i took it as you felt like you needed to tell her so that she's know the truth.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Third Time Mommy:</b>" Right."</blockquote>




 

Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" <blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" I agree completely. There were a couple ... [snip!] ... I'm happy you realize it   I mean I understand the point of everyone's comments but it would be better in a D&D you know?"

Absolutely. I guess I just want people to understand that there are those women out there who chose abortion and are having a hard time dealing with it who consider it a loss....Shaming behaviour makes it hard for them to come out and freely discuss their feelings, they often have to mislead people about the cause of their loss.

The ignorance of some people upsets me so much.

Quoting ღ.ღ.ღ:" I know but the way you worded somethings about your friend having late term miscarriages i took it as you felt like you needed to tell her so that she's know the truth."

No, I see why you could have took it that way, but that's why I said I haven't mentioned it to her, it wouldn't help or change anything.

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" Absolutely. I guess I just want people to understand that there are those women out there who chose ... [snip!] ... feelings, they often have to mislead people about the cause of their loss. The ignorance of some people upsets me so much."</blockquote>




I know what you mean  

Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Absolutely. I guess I just want people to understand that there are those women out there who chose ... [snip!] ... feelings, they often have to mislead people about the cause of their loss. The ignorance of some people upsets me so much."

It is a loss, no doubt, and I never planned on shaming or saying anything to her, or anyone else, about it, but she acts completely different in her day to day life than what she was saying about it on her comments. That's why I said maybe it's her own way of grieving, but I think she took some comments too far.