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Quoting Victoria051712:" The way i look at it she killed her baby why lie yeah people may look down on her but she don't need to lie it was her choice and they should get over it"

Regardless of how you look at it, it's her body, her choice. It's also her choice to lie about what happened. Maybe she feels guilty and wants to vent but does not want to be judged. Either way, none of us know what's going on in her head and most people that suffer losses deal with emotions that might be strange to us. There's really no need to make cruel comments towards another human being just because you don't understand their actions regarding their loss.

I don't plan on saying anything, that's why I haven't, but I still think she's wrong.

Quoting Third Time Mommy:" I don't plan on saying anything, that's why I haven't, but I still think she's wrong."

She still suffered a loss, she still went through the bleeding, the emotions etc, the SAME thing someone feels when they lose something they couldn't afford, deal with, or any other option. I had a loss and I would understand her grievance.

Quoting BrookeT:" I would stay out of it but at the same time I would feel the same way. If it was just other people asking ... [snip!] ... that, but making a Facebook status like that just seems like she wants attention and wants people to feel sorry for her."

That's exactly what it is, she's wanting people to feel bad about her miscarriage that didn't happen.

Quoting Third Time Mommy:" I don't plan on saying anything, that's why I haven't, but I still think she's wrong."

But how does it affect you and your life?

Yeah but when you go out drinking and get a tattoo the same night that isn't grieving and yeah she could also do it in a message but i wouldn't let the poor people commenting think she miscarried when she didn't she went out and killed her baby and their feeling bad for her because thats what they think people urk my bubble when they do that it was a helpless baby that lost its life.

Quoting Third Time Mommy:" That's exactly what it is, she's wanting people to feel bad about her miscarriage that didn't happen."

She LOST a baby, it's still a loss, it's still a miscarriage. I understand your feelings but you're acting like your feelings are the only ones that matter

Quoting Victoria051712:" Yeah but when you go out drinking and get a tattoo the same night that isn't grieving and yeah she could ... [snip!] ... bad for her because thats what they think people urk my bubble when they do that it was a helpless baby that lost its life."

Urk my bubble?? What the hell does that mean?

Also, people grieve in different ways...would you judge a woman who had a miscarriage who went out to have a couple of drinks and get a tattoo?

Quoting katxo:" She still suffered a loss, she still went through the bleeding, the emotions etc, the SAME thing someone ... [snip!] ... they lose something they couldn't afford, deal with, or any other option. I had a loss and I would understand her grievance."

Right, which is why I didn't mind the original post so much, it was when she started telling my friend and other people who had actually had terrible miscarriages, about hers, when it's a flat out lie.

Quoting Victoria051712:" Yeah but when you go out drinking and get a tattoo the same night that isn't grieving and yeah she could ... [snip!] ... bad for her because thats what they think people urk my bubble when they do that it was a helpless baby that lost its life."

You can't say what grieving is. Not everyone grieves the same  

If it was an actual miscarriage then no but if you kill your baby uh yeah

Quoting Third Time Mommy:" Right, which is why I didn't mind the original post so much, it was when she started telling my friend ... [snip!] ... started telling my friend and other people who had actually had terrible miscarriages, about hers, when it's a flat out lie."

this is one thing you just need to leave alone. Society looks down on abortion, maybe she feels alone and this is the only way she can relate to people? You have no idea what she's going through, none at all, and you shouldn't be judging her. I feel really bad for "your friend' or whoever the hell she is to you.

Quoting katxo:" She LOST a baby, it's still a loss, it's still a miscarriage. I understand your feelings but you're acting like your feelings are the only ones that matter"

I agree with this. Whether she wanted this outcome or not, it is still a loss and she will still go through varying emotions.

Quoting Victoria051712:" If it was an actual miscarriage then no but if you kill your baby uh yeah"

You're extremely narrow minded.

Quoting Victoria051712:" If it was an actual miscarriage then no but if you kill your baby uh yeah"

Get your smurffy ass negative comments out of here. PEOPLE grieve differently, and you are ignorant.