OMG!! I feel I am the only one preparing for this baby !!!!!

  OK so I'm 19 weeks and I am on bed rest.. Well my fiance to whom I really do love with every part of me doesn't work. We have two children already plus I take care of my father who has lung cancer and has to have a mass removed the 31st of this month. I'm stressing the f-bomb out!!! I can't work and I'm fighting to get state assistance because I can't work in the mean time I told my ex he needs to get off his butt and do something because I can't do everything. The only income my house has right now is what I make from selling things I crochet and my dads va benifits and his social security which barely gets the bills paid and food on the table. My fiance had a job in the begining of this pregnancy and now he doesn't and isn't making any effort at all to get one. I am so frustrated because of this. How is he suppose to be a responsible adult and father if he doesn't make an effort to help support his family. I am at my breaking point!! All my fiance does is sit on his butt and play the xbox. I am suppose to be on complete bed rest because of complications with this pregnancy and still I do all the housework laundry everything plus cook and take care of the kids and try my hardest to make things to get money in the house. I had a job interview at Mc Donalds and should be hearing back from them soon. I don't like the idea of working there but it's close so I can walk there since I don't have a car. But my fiance see's me busting my ass trying to get money in here so I can take care of everyone and he doesn't care at all. I hate that I love him so damn much because a part of me wants to just be like leave if you aint gonna be a part and be a man this family needs but I know I love him so and I feel it in my bones that eventually he will come around that maybe he will get going on the job situation. I'm pushing him and pushing him to get started on something, so far to were I am putting online applications for him so if he gets a call back he has no choice but to stop with the excuses of no one is hiring. I can't do it all, I just can't I am only one person. I am freaking out because I am considered to be in the begining of my fifth month and I have only 3 outfits for my daughter to be. I need a infant carseat, crib, clothes, diaper bag EVERYTHING. At this point I am sure some of you are thinking ummm you shouldn't of gotten pregnant if you can't prepare for your own child well let me tell you before those nasty comments come.. I wasn't suppost to be able to get pregnant because I have massive scarring in my uterus from cancer and abuse. This pregnancy was a complete surprise and wasn't suppose to happen at all but I'm trying to be responsible and due what I can to make sure this child has everything she needs. Please no hateful responses I just can't handle that added stress nore have time for it. This was strictly a vent so thank you to those of you who have read this. I'm sure things will work out they always do.. I am just having an emotional tie with hardship and pregnancy..

I would kick his ass out the door so fast. You're already dealing with alot of things you don't need a man child too.

Don't stress out so much! If you're only 19 weeks you don't really need to get anything yet. Dd was a surprise for us as well and dh was still in school. We made almost no money. We did get our act together before she came though. How are you planning to work if you're supposed to be on bed rest? I didn't think they'd hire you if you were in that. Your SO does need to get his act together though and find a job soon.

Quoting kate & tilly:" Don't stress out so much! If you're only 19 weeks you don't really need to get anything yet. Dd was a ... [snip!] ... rest? I didn't think they'd hire you if you were in that. Your SO does need to get his act together though and find a job soon."

I planned on not telling them I'm suppose to be on bed rest. I need money to support my family.. I figure if they knew Im pregnant then they will keep me on light tasks. i have to do what i have to do. I don't know how else to get his butt in gear. I feel so lost and helpless

Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:" I would kick his ass out the door so fast. You're already dealing with alot of things you don't need a man child too."

I would but I do love him and am hopeful this is all temporary that he will get his head out his butt. Not to mention I have utilities in his name that I can't put in mine and he is a spiteful person and i can see him turning them off saying he dont live there so why keep anything in his name

<blockquote><b>Quoting Atlantis Rodriguez:</b>" I planned on not telling them I'm suppose to be on bed rest. I need money to support my family.. I figure ... [snip!] ... me on light tasks. i have to do what i have to do. I don't know how else to get his butt in gear. I feel so lost and helpless"</blockquote>




I think that may be a liability for them. I'd be pressuring SO or kicking him out honesty.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Atlantis Rodriguez:</b>" I planned on not telling them I'm suppose to be on bed rest. I need money to support my family.. I figure ... [snip!] ... me on light tasks. i have to do what i have to do. I don't know how else to get his butt in gear. I feel so lost and helpless"</blockquote>



Don't put your healthy at risk. Make him. Give him an ultimatum.

I would go pick that Xbox up and break that smurfer so fast he wouldn't know what happened. Then I'd kick his ass out and tell him don't come home until you have a job. I'm on bed rest.

Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Atlantis Rodriguez:</b>" I planned on not telling them I'm ... [snip!] ... in gear. I feel so lost and helpless"</blockquote> Don't put your healthy at risk. Make him. Give him an ultimatum."

Threats don't work I've tried that. We start fighting after I do say something like that and he say i will just leave and you cant take care of the kids yourself cause you cant get blood out of a turnip.. im literally screwed

Quoting ♫ boobook ♫:" I would go pick that Xbox up and break that smurfer so fast he wouldn't know what happened. Then I'd kick his ass out and tell him don't come home until you have a job. I'm on bed rest."

it's my sons xbox he uses. he has asburgers and adhd and he plays his education games on there.. it's one of the only things that keeps him still and teaches him

Mama, if the doctors put you on bed rest, you really need to be on bed rest. Bad things can happen if you aren't following bed rest orders.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Atlantis Rodriguez:</b>" it's my sons xbox he uses. he has asburgers and adhd and he plays his education games on there.. it's one of the only things that keeps him still and teaches him"</blockquote>



So tell him to get out and find a job and don't come home until you have one.

If it's your sons there is no reason for you fiancé to be playing it instead of being responsible.

YOU don't need to be working. Not in fast food. Not anywhere. Your fiancé needs to get off of his lazy ass and stop pretending that Xbox is going to provide for his family. And you need to stop enabling it. No real man would allow his bed rest pregnant future wife to risk the life of his child, so that he can up his ranks in call of duty. Kick him the smurf out. Your dad didn't serve this country to take care of this lard ass.

Keep putting in applications online for him. Before my SO got hired I was constantly on the computer filling out application after application. He needs to get his smurf together ASAP. Your father should not have to support his lazy ass. I hope things get better soon.

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