If you are bed rest then you should be able to qualify for disability benefits. I have had complications with my current pregnancy and had to quit working because of it and my doc actually told me to go to the social security office and get all of the paper work and he would fill it out so we could still have extra money coming into the house. My husband works full time and my job was just for spending money so I didn't bother but it would be worth asking about. And as for you fiance, I have giving my husband an ultimatum before and it worked. He used to have an addiction and I gave him 30 days to get his act together because I was tired of his crap and if he did not then he would lose me and our kids for good. It was hard for me to do but I was at my breaking point. I never had to leave him or kick him out and I probably would not have been able to but it opened his eyes up to how I was feeling and made him think about what he wanted more me or his addiction. I know your situation is probably different but I hope that some of this helps. And I understand about being so in love that it is hard to do what needs to be done.
hide the xbox until you can get him kicked out. whats better? him using the last resources your family has or kick him out and not get child support possibly but your dads money can be used better and you can get welfare and public assistance insurance and etc until you are cleared for work. him being there is spending more money than him being gone. if you work he will just take it too.
WELL .... This morning my fiance woke up to a house on electronical lock down minus my laptop that i have changed the password on to where i only know it. I have it set up to autolock and all i have to do is shut it and it shuts completely down. I took the xbox and tv remotes and have them locked in my gun cabinet. I wrapped the cords up to the tv's and wrapped 5-50 cord tightly around them and printed him 20 resume`s that I made for him. He was PISSED!!!! I said be pissed cause my ass is over it. I told him threatening me in any way will not get him anywhere because I'm not afraid of them any longer (though I am) i said so what you leave? It's one less mouth to feed and one less stress. I then told him before he says smurf he needs to read something and I had him read this post I made followed by all the comments and he started crying... Threw me off guard cause I wanted to be mad I wanted to be stone to him. He started apologizing and telling me he couldn't believe he was so stupid and said he didn't want me to work he wants me to not break doctors orders. He said he wasn't thinking about the big picture he was just thinking about himself and the depression he has been in because he lost his favorite job. I hugged him and said that's all I wanted to hear and now I need action. I said I love you more then anyone could possibly love a person but I need you to have a job in 30 days even if it's at Mc Donalds because any income at all is better then none. I told him if he doesn't then he won't have to worry about threatening me that he is leaving because I will pack his bags myself. I hate seeming so callus towards him but I think he needs this tough love.. As we speak my mom is driving him around to put in applications, he said he would walk everywhere but me and my mom want to make sure he is actually putting in applications and not just hanging out with friends for a couple hours and say he is job hunting.. I feel optimistic now. I think this will work. He did ask if he could atleast have the TV back when he gets home I told him no that there is to much that needs done here. I feel like his damn mom now though like you can't go outside and play with your friends until your homework is done. BLAHHH but he did say when he gets home that he is going to clean the whole house and finally clear out the garage so we can get rid of the clutter plus he said tonight for dinner he is gonna cook. He also promised me that he will pick up all the house work from now on even the cooking that he just wants me to stay in bed like i'm suppose to. I feel like a HUGE weight has been lifted!
<blockquote><b>Quoting Atlantis Rodriguez:</b>" WELL .... This morning my fiance woke up to a house on electronical lock down minus my laptop that i ... [snip!] ... now on even the cooking that he just wants me to stay in bed like i'm suppose to. I feel like a HUGE weight has been lifted!"</blockquote>
Good for you see ultimatums get the ball rolling sometimes.
you can have him read this if you want. when my so is jobless or car less he feels worthless. sometimes a quick score on the xbox makes you feel like you actually accomplished something and it probably made him forget for a while. if he gets his smurf together he should be allowed to play some xbox on the weekends or whatever. being depressed about not being a good provider is hard. he is still completely in the wrong though for what he did. i hope he does change and you guys can be happy.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Sophie's dairy cow:</b>" sell xbox 2 problems solved"</blockquote>
Exactly what I would do and if he freaks out say u needed groceries agh lazy men annoy me is kick his ass out so fast love dnt pay the bills or feed a family he needs a reality cheak he dnt care about u if he knows ur on bed rest and is allowing u to clean cook and look for a job kick him out and apply for help