re: He can't get me a real ring

<blockquote><b>Quoting Crazzzy Mel:</b>" yeah sure it's in an old post I made so lemme dig it out "</blockquote>


It's really pretty but he probably paid at most $30 for it. What did he say back to that last text?

Quoting I ♥ My Tots:" It's a cute ring to be turning your finger green."

that's what made me fall in love with it..I looked inside the band to see if there was any writting on it and there isn't any..like 10k camelot..etc

<blockquote><b>Quoting Crazzzy Mel:</b>" I assumed he bought it at Walmart because he gave me the ring in a box from Walmart..he says he ordered ... [snip!] ... I wanted a real ring, not a fake ring. I even told him about the incident at the jeweller..just waiting for a reply now.. ;)"</blockquote>




Good for you. Did he ever reply?

I got my set on amazon. They are sterling silver with fake diamonds and cost 40. I have had them for over a year with no problems.
before I got them I went a retail store and got a set for 7. My finger turned really green.
I would drop him to be honest. Why is he spending money on her?

you should be the priority and he should be spending his money on you and not some other girl. and to lie to you about it is horrible.

The spending his money on another girl would bug me more than the lying since technically he didn't lie about spending that much money.

But why is he spending his money on another girl? That's just straight weird. She should be paying her own bills, not getting your fiance to pay them for her. Unless she's giving him something in return ... If you know what I mean

Uhm shady.. all around. Why are you marrying him if he's a liar and paying another females bills..

I see that you found out the Ring was Fake, and then immediately Said "He's a liar." It's obvious you have no trust for him, because the first thing I thought when I read that was "Damn, he must have been duped, or scammed." So there is definitely something in your relationship that needs to be worked on. On the Subject of paying someone else's bills first.... I want to believe that this is just a nice guy being really dumb, as I can possibly see myself doing something along those lines, he should reconsider if he knows that it upsets you, but let me ask would you be upset if this was a male friend who needed help? Also, the ring story is sounding more and more like he was trying to get you a ring worth far more than his 100$ limit, and possibly bought it from: A) "Some Guy" B) "A Friend of mine" C) "That dude who hangs out in front of Zales, you know at the mall?" I say don't immediately condemn him for being a "Cheating dog!" until he does more than buy you a cheap ring, probably from a not so reputable dealer, and tries to help a friend out of a financial mess. If this is the man you are wanting to marry, then start with the most positive outlook, then move towards the worst as more evidence comes in. Also don't you find it incredibly selfish to say, "Screw her! She can have her power/water/gas cut off, So what if she doesn't eat, or loses her house or Car! So long as I get me a Shiny new ring!!!!

His priorities are mixed up and to be honest, you're lucky you found out you are allergic to the thing early on.. your finger could have swollen up and you'd need to go to ER to have it cut off (happened to several of my friends allergic to cheap metals)

I think he should apologize and sign up for mini down payments and stuff.. and pay it off comfortable in a year, I know some people do that.

I feel like he skimped on your ring so he would have that extra $ to spend on her. Not cool. His priorities are messed up big time. No, they price of the ring doesn't matter, but at least buy something that wont turn your finger green or cause a reaction. Idiot. If he's lying to you, and it's making you uncomfortable, why would you want to marry him?


I would re-think things, but that's just me personally.

I can understand your frustrations on him spending money on another girl rather then you, my DH wouldn't ever think of doing that unless one of his friends kids absolutely needed it. Also it shouldn't matter how much he spends, my ring is off overstock for $20 and I absolutely love it, I've also gotten multiple rings from walmart and the only ones that have ever turned my fingers green are the $8 rings, my brother actually just proposed to his fiance with a $80 ring from walmart and it still hasn't turned her finger green

His priorities, really? This is plain messed up I'm sorry you may love him, but don't be ignorant sweetie. They went somewhere together picked out a fake ring so he could give her money to pay her pills. He just put her needs in front of yours. When a man goes to buy the women he loves he wouldn't be lending out $ to a guy friend, would he? I'm sorry but to me it seems simple they seem to have feelings for each other. That's relationship seems like they're too close. My fiance loves his bestfriend and if he needed $ he would lend it to him but if he was about to buy my ring he'd would say I'm Sorry bro I just can't right now. Seriously you are ttc and getting engaged with a fake ring and he's obviously really close with this other women. Sounds like red flags all around. I don't mean to be blunt but trust me I married a guy who was that close with a FRIEND that was a girl she was even in my wedding. Needless to share I was just there to amuse them.

I gotta agree with everyone else here... i wouldn't even consider marrying someone i clearly didn't trust... it doesn't even have anything to do with the fact that the ring was fake... i'd be pissed that he felt it was more important to pay his "friends" bills than to buy his fiance a nicer ring... everything that surrounds that sounds shady... my ex husband was buying his current (stb ex wife) wife stuff while we were married stating that it was just cause they were best friends... i found out later he was buying her flowers, jewelry and always sending them to her.. i was livid because i went without eating a lot for her to get gifts..&.. come to find out they were sneaking around the entire time having sex...... that's just my situation, so i can kind of relate... honestly, i think you should just cut your ties..i get you love him, but do you REALLY want to spend your life with someone and bring a child into this world with someone who doesn't seem to put 100% in...... how would you feel if you two had a child and the money that you needed for formula or diapers went to paying her bills?

Not a single person on here knows a thing about your man, and why he did what he did. You should just speak to him and tell him you know its fake, and get a real one. You can buy a silver ring that wont change the color of your finger for like twenty dollars.
It's odd that he is spending money on someone else, for sure. But as you can see almost all the women on here are not going to try and give you ways to fix your relationship, but instead encourage you to leave it (when they have a tiny speck of info).

Quoting eKnuckles:" Not a single person on here knows a thing about your man, and why he did what he did. You should just ... [snip!] ... to try and give you ways to fix your relationship, but instead encourage you to leave it (when they have a tiny speck of info)."

You don't have all the info either. Most of us stated it was shady. What is a relationship without trust? From what she has said/implied, it sounds like he's not so trustworthy. All I said personally was to re-evaluate things. It would make me think hard about it. What happens if they get married and there's an emergency/bill that needs to be paid but he doesn't have the money to pay it because he was out paying another girls bills?

Leaving isn't always the answer, you're right. I agree with that. But how can we give her ways to fix her relationship if we only "have a tiny speck of info." I think she was looking more for opinions or what we would do. It sounds like most girls would re consider or it would be a deal breaker for them. Just personal opinions.

OP- Hope you figure it out girl!   If you don't like the situation or him spending money on another woman, put your foot down and stick to your guns. A marriage is a partnership and your opinion should most definitely be valid to him. Good luck.