When did you stop feeling like a "single" mom?
posted 18th Jan
I know it is just a title. But after a year or so I felt very settled in my single mom role, routine, and existence. My ex husband is still very hands on but it's not the same as having a partner you know?
Anyhow, I embraced the whole independence "hear me roar" smurf.
Now I am in my first serious relationship since my ex-husband (I dated two other men but I do not consider those flings remotely serious nor did the alter my single parent status) We are having a child, and though we do not live together yet (personal choice) he spends every day with myself and children, and we will be living together in a few months.
I called myself a single parent the other day and someone corrected me. I guess I am not anymore? and with that comes all the weird feelings. I adjusted so much doing this smurf on my own that its a HUGE adjustment having a partner again, and its making me feel and act weird sometimes..I don't know maybe that is the hormones.
anyhow essentially when did you adjust to being a partner and parenting with another person after being single?
quotesmurfs?posted 18th Jan
For me because of all my past smurffy relationships. Even though we lived together I didn't considered myself a single mother until the day I got married to my husband.
But that's just me and my family still classified me as a single mom until we made it official as well.
quotesmurfs?posted 18th Jan
Legally you are still a single parent until you are married.
For tax purposes I am indeed a single parent. Though I wouldn't consider myself personally because I have had SO for a year and a half.
quoteposted 18th Jan
<blockquote><b>Quoting [JadeLee]:</b>" Legally you are still a single parent until you are married. For tax purposes I am indeed a single parent. Though I wouldn't consider myself personally because I have had SO for a year and a half."</blockquote>
Ya same for me I didn't claim common law at all we lived with each other for 2 1/2 years before we were married.
quoteposted 18th Jan
I stopped thinking of myself as a single parent once we were living together and he took on more of a parent role to my daughter.
Though, technically still single 'cause we're not married, as the others have said. haha
quoteposted 19th Jan
i have a boyfriend and i call myself a single mom..i guess because my bf isn't my sons father..
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