Relationship Question.

If a girl who has caused multiple problems in your relationship continued to contact your SO would you be totally cool with it even though she nearly caused you two to break up? Or vice versa, would you expect your SO to think it was okay for you to talk to a man who nearly ended your relationship just because you two have known eachother for a while?

I wouldn't be cool with it at all.. I'm not sure if it's for you or not but if you or whomever is not feeling comfortable with them contacting each other he should respect that and leave her alone. Simple as that.

No and no. If my relationship was the priority, which it should be or we shouldn't be together, then I wouldn't tolerate him talking to a girl who came between us and I wouldn't expect him to tolerate a guy who came between us just because we had known that person for a long time. That person should be cut out if the relationship is the focus.

I don't care anout other females, they will do what they want reguardless...
I would be upset that my husband was still talking to someone who almost ruined our relationship...

Quoting J u l i a .:" I wouldn't be cool with it at all.. I'm not sure if it's for you or not but if you or whomever is not ... [snip!] ... is not feeling comfortable with them contacting each other he should respect that and leave her alone. Simple as that. "

 
If she made me uncomfortable then I'd expect my SO to respect that, unless I were being ridiculous, of course, but since you said the girl had caused multiple problems and nearly ended the relationship, then no, he shouldn't be talking to her. Someone that has disrespect for my relationship isn't welcome to be a part of my or SO's life.

I am pretty sure that DH would not talk to a friend of his that caused problem between us. And he would let them know that. In other words he would end contact before it even began.

You should be his number one priority, and if you are uncomfortable with a situation (I know I would be), he should choose your happiness over a relationship with someone who should not be a part of his life.

never ok

Been there before, and no I would definitely NOT be cool with it. She caused sooo many issues, on purpose, but tried to say she just wanted to be friends. I told my husband (Then BF) that if he and I were going to continue our relationship, she had to go for good.
Even though he never talks to her, she still tries to cause issues by going through his family or trying to contact me. So no, the problem (in my case) still hasn't totally gone away even though my husband hasn't spoken to her in over a year.

I stopped talking to my best friend because my husband wasn't comfortable with us talking, he has also let go a couple of girl friends because they made me uncomfortable. I fully trust my husband because I know if I were even throw a female at him he wouldn't touch her unless I was joining. But if your not comfortable with him talking to a female then he needs to respect you and stop talking to her and you should do the same or it will cause more issues in your relationship regardless of how long you knew that person, your relationship should always come first over a friend

Thanks ladies! Apparently he doesn't get why it's a big deal because "it's in the past".

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lin Brown:</b>" I stopped talking to my best friend because my husband wasn't comfortable with us talking, he has also ... [snip!] ... in your relationship regardless of how long you knew that person, your relationship should always come first over a friend"</blockquote>




Funny thing is...he had an issue with me talking to one of my guy friends from middle school on facebook. I deleted him & haven't contacted him since. But he talks to this girl on the phone, on facebook & she even came over totally unannounced & I shouldn't be upset. I hate that I have so much respect for him & I get absolutely none in return.

Quoting Colton's Mommy ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lin Brown:</b>" I stopped talking to my best friend because ... [snip!] ... over totally unannounced & I shouldn't be upset. I hate that I have so much respect for him & I get absolutely none in return."

guys are stubborn and it usually takes longer for a guy to realize something then it does a female. have you talked to the girl?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lin Brown:</b>" guys are stubborn and it usually takes longer for a guy to realize something then it does a female. have you talked to the girl? "</blockquote>




I did before. But not this time around.

Quoting Colton's Mommy ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lin Brown:</b>" guys are stubborn and it usually takes longer ... [snip!] ... something then it does a female. have you talked to the girl? "</blockquote> I did before. But not this time around."

if any chick that I didn't like randomly showed up at my house I would've told her to get lost whether my husband was friends with her or not, he would've gotten over it eventually. my husband stopped talking to one of his best friends for me, but that was only because she was pretty much blaming him that her mom took her kids from her because he was overseas and "fell off the face of the earth" I told him that he could keep her in his life, but I wasn't going to let that bullsmurf drama in mine or my kids lives and he choose to keep her out of his as well