big fear

So this is my third baby. And this time around is so different, everything. But I have this huge fear more then ever. I've never been this scared. I'm constantly feeling like during the birth, I won't make it. And last night me and my SO were watching what to expect when your expecting. He expressed how he's scared he's going to lose me. . . Sand him saying it made me more scared. Has anyone else everhad this fear? I think about it probably about 3-4 times a week. My biggest fear is leaving my kids and my girls having to live with they're Dad and never seeing my SO again. They love him like he was they're Dad. Out seriously scares me. Help please. I've never had this big a fear.

The big thing is to just take calm, deep breaths. I know its hard but you have to not let yourself think that way. This was my first baby and I was so scared I wasn't going to make it that I wrote up a will and everything beforehand just in case and kept telling SO that I loved him on the way to the hospital. He kept telling me not to be stupid, that I would be fine. Of course, he started to panic when I was in recovery for 3 hours because my oxygen kept dropping.

Keep yourself calm; everything will be fine! hugs mama!

Haha I think its totally normal. I've had the exact same fear. I had my hubby watch jersery girl with my first. The mom dies delivering. He's always been convinced ill die. And it freaks me out. You have to think the small tiny amount this actually happens to. And how many women have little or no problems. Our bodies were made to do this. And we have no serious health issues before so why would one appear. You will do great  I think having other kids def plays a roll bc I'm terrified of my daughter not having a mom. I just keep reminding myself how small the numb of deaths is compared to how many deliver. And stay clear of those movies or horror stories 
You will do great. It will be over so fast. Good luck dear!!  

After my second I almost died. A week later I dropped a clot the size of a, potatoe. And gushed out blood. They had to do a D&c and give me two bags of blood. When I got up to leave hours later I fainted and stopped breathing. . . This time I'm so scared. It's hard I try not to think about it. But if he had the fear too it just scares me more . Thank you for the support.

Quoting [P&T's Mama]- Baking#3:" After my second I almost died. A week later I dropped a clot the size of a, potatoe. And gushed out blood. ... [snip!] ... scared. It's hard I try not to think about it. But if he had the fear too it just scares me more . Thank you for the support."

Just remember, the odds of that happening once are very small. The odds of that happening TWICE are extremely small.

Oh man. That is scary. Well you know what to look for. The unknowns so scary. I think you just have to stay positive. I had a biopsy go wrong and bled out. I now have anxiety attacks. So I'm worried seein the blood and clots will freak me out. I'm sure ill end up needing some kind of meds to chill. Maybe they can give you something to calm your nerves. (I'm not on a daily pill since my dr doesn't feel they are safe). Id just try to think these drs know their stuff. And your in good hands. Positive thoughts. I totally get your fears and understand why. Your not alone. Hopefully time flies and your back home safely soon.

Thank you ladies for the support and understanding. I appreciate it. I'm going to try and stay positive. (:

Just keep reminding the doctors delivering your baby about your issues and they will keep a closer eye on you! It is their job to make sure you don't leave any little ones behind, after all! (:

I have 3 kids, and I was the same with my third. I feared that I was gunna go early. Feared that I wouldn't get to hospital on time. Feared that my delivery was going to go wrong, and something terrible was going to happen to me or the baby. My biggest fear was that LO was going to have something wrong with him. I had so many horrible dreams about him, that I had convinced myself that something wasn't right. But everything well extremely well and baby was born nice and healthy  
Try and relax. I know it's hard, but you need to think positive and everything will be fine.
Best of luck X