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abortion? so confused

~Miss Skellington~

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posted 18th Jan

So i just found out i'm pregnant and I'm leaning towards an abortion.
The dad moved 3500 miles away and is deploying soon, we don't know each other that well, i have a feeling i'd be doing it alone The question is, idk if i should tell the dad or not since abortion is my plan.. I'm still pretty early, my period isn't even due for another week but i've been having TONS of symptoms... I don't know what to do i never wanted an abortion, but i can't be a single mom of THREE, two is hard enough and i don't want him to do anything JUST because i'm pregnant

i'm so confused and torn and hurt

I have 2 kids & 2 angel babies & live in Toledo, Ohio

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posted 18th Jan

If you are terminating, I wouldn't tell the father. Mostly because he has the ability to guilt trip you into keeping a child you can't afford or may not even necessarily want.

I live in Wisconsin

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posted 18th Jan

And unfortunately, this is probably going to turn into a "You should do an adoption instead. ABORTION IS BAD" because it's not in the safety of Abortion Survivors.

You can repost it there if you'd rather not have that.

I live in Wisconsin

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The Great Mustachio

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posted 18th Jan

Quoting Saffy Sly:" And unfortunately, this is probably going to turn into a "You should do an adoption instead. ABORTION ... [snip!] ... ABORTION IS BAD" because it's not in the safety of Abortion Survivors. You can repost it there if you'd rather not have that."

I wouldn't tell him.

I live in Australia

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posted 18th Jan

Quoting Saffy Sly:" And unfortunately, this is probably going to turn into a "You should do an adoption instead. ABORTION ... [snip!] ... ABORTION IS BAD" because it's not in the safety of Abortion Survivors. You can repost it there if you'd rather not have that."

At one point we were modding posts that said things of that nature outside of AS. I can't remember if it still stands or not.

I have 3 kids & live in Germany

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posted 18th Jan

Quoting Saffy Sly:" If you are terminating, I wouldn't tell the father. Mostly because he has the ability to guilt trip you into keeping a child you can't afford or may not even necessarily want."

i agree. if you are that early you might even be able to take the pill ASAP and then you wont have to go to a procedure alone or anything like that. Good luck hun!

I'm due July 20th (a boy), have 3 kids & live in Mueang Phuket, Thailand

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~Miss Skellington~

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posted 18th Jan

I don't care if it turns to that :/
I know what it right for my family and that's all that matters.
I WANT the baby, but i don't wanna raise it with him 3500 miles away never seeing the kid.

*sigh* thanks mamas.
i'm so torn, maybe i should think about it for a few days, i was also thinking about seeing what he wants but again, he's stationed 3500 miles away.

I have 2 kids & 2 angel babies & live in Toledo, Ohio

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JessieLeeAnne

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posted 18th Jan

Im confused, did you take a test then?

You would probably be three weeks now?

I wouldnt tell the father.

I have 1 child & live in South Carolina

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Artie Russell169 posts

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posted 18th Jan

I believe everything happens for a reason you dont have to abort the child adoption is also and option but every child is a gift no matter what the curcumstances are I'd go full term if I where in your mind set and then give him/her to a loving family who wants kids but cant have one think about it but dont abortion the baby please

I'm due September 16th & live in Evans Mills, New York

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JessieLeeAnne

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posted 18th Jan

Quoting Artie Russell:" I believe everything happens for a reason you dont have to abort the child adoption is also and option ... [snip!] ... set and then give him/her to a loving family who wants kids but cant have one think about it but dont abortion the baby please"

I have 1 child & live in South Carolina

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posted 18th Jan

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Miss Skellington~:</b>" I don't care if it turns to that :/ I know what it right for my family and that's all that matters. I ... [snip!] ... should think about it for a few days, i was also thinking about seeing what he wants but again, he's stationed 3500 miles away."</blockquote>

You should take time to think about it, that's a great idea. And if you want the baby maybe you should tell him, maybe he would be excited and want to be there for you? And if not it could make the decision to abort easier for you.
It all up to you and how you feel, whatever choice you make good luck.

I have 1 child & live in Beach Haven, New Jersey

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Artie Russell169 posts

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posted 18th Jan

Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" "

I'm due September 16th & live in Evans Mills, New York

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Artie Russell169 posts

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posted 18th Jan

Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" "

last time i give my opinion when its not needed goodluck

I'm due September 16th & live in Evans Mills, New York

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speaktruth2powr

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posted 18th Jan

When I chose abortion, I was doing it for a similar reason. I was a single mother raising a child isolated from my family, working a crappy job to make ends meet.

It would have been incredibly hard on my daughter, my child who was living and breathing, for me to bring another child into our lives. She would end up going without....I couldn't do that to her.

After my abortion, I was completely at peace with my decision. I still am, all these years later. I don't regret it for one moment.

I hope you aren't shamed into keeping a pregnancy by some of the ladies on here. I wouldn't tell the father.

I'm due December 28th, have 1 child & live in Ontario

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~Miss Skellington~

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posted 18th Jan

Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" Im confused, did you take a test then? You would probably be three weeks now? I wouldnt tell the father. "

yep, i took the test, i would be about 3 weeks

I have 2 kids & 2 angel babies & live in Toledo, Ohio

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