re: abortion? so confused

Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" What's your political page? I would LOVE to see that! "

 

Quoting ~Miss Skellington~:" sex isn't just for reproducing haha btw, i had safe sex with my oldest and guess what? STILL got pregnant. ... [snip!] ... i got pregnant and you seem to think i need to have the baby? NO even carrying the baby to term would take away from my kids."

Safe sex=no sex. Nothing else.

Quoting Brandi Rodrick:" Safe sex=no sex. Nothing else."

She means she was protecting herself using contraceptives. I am sure you don't want a child every time you have sex.

Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" She means she was protecting herself using contraceptives. I am sure you don't want a child every time you have sex. "

I think she's implying that the only true safe sex is no sex though I think abstinence is a crock of crap.

The truest form of safe sex is self sex.  

Quoting Saffy Sly:" I think she's implying that the only true safe sex is no sex though I think abstinence is a crock of crap. The truest form of safe sex is self sex.   "

Amen!  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Saffy Sly:</b>" I think she's implying that the only true safe sex is no sex though I think abstinence is a crock of crap. The truest form of safe sex is self sex.   "</blockquote>




Preach!


Abstinence isn't actually sex do saying "safe sex is no sex" is the stupidest thing ever.

I will start using your line and give you full credit  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brandi Rodrick:</b>" Safe sex=no sex. Nothing else."</blockquote>




Oh shut it. You're an adult, OP is an adult, we all know humans don't have sex for just reproductive purposes.

Ladies, I was kidding! I realize it's (semi) early morning, but have a sense of humor!
Although I do quite like "The truest form of safe sex is self sex"...  

You have to make the decision that is right for you and only you know the answer to that. However, I do think you should think about it. Only because once you do it, you can't undo it. I was in the military for 11 yrs and its tough raising children alone. Financially it's great but emotionally it's hard!!!!!! And I am speaking from my husbands point of view because I was the one who was always away.... Good luck.

I'm totally teaching my daughters that the only form of sex that they can be 100% sure won't run the risk of pregnancy or STIs is self-sex.  

i def wouldn't tell the father.. he's deploying & has a lot more on his plate staying alive than to be worrying about some girl he got pregnant.. i don't mean to sound harsh, but as a military widow, ive known of bad things happening to those men who have been in this situation.. it has never ended well for them... he needs a clear head when he leaves...

As for abortion or keep it... just try to keep in mind, if it's hard for you to take care of three as a single mom, imagine how hard it will be juggling three & trying to figure out how to pay for all of their medical care, food, clothes, schooling/college, ect. It will be even more rough not just emotionally and physically but financially.. I don't believe in abortion whatsoever, i feel like it's selfish. but thats my opinion, i get ladies do it not to mess up the life they have, or because they can't afford it, ect. But on the other hand I also feel that the baby could spend a while waiting for a adoption to go through if you went that route & you'd always have to worry about it.

Just sit and take time to REALLY think about it.. this is a major life decision.. good luck op

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Its not a baby.... a baby is what you hold after giving birth. If she gave birth right now it would not come out crying.. it wouldnt be a baby.  "

I'm confused on how this is quoted towards me...

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" It's not the obligation of women who can reproduce to do so for those who can't. If they want children ... [snip!] ... can't. If they want children to raise, there are thousand waiting in foster care around the U.S. that are waiting for a home."</blockquote>



It is the obligation of a woman who doesn't want a child to prevent pregnancy. She willingly had sex with a man and became pregnant. It's now her obligation to be an adult about the life they have created and talk with the dad. It's his child too and if he wants that baby its his decision just as much as it is hers.

Quoting Amber n dave:" <blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" It's not the obligation of women who ... [snip!] ... have created and talk with the dad. It's his child too and if he wants that baby its his decision just as much as it is hers."

She is preventing pregnancy by getting an abortion.
It's not a child. This is her choice and the man doesnt have to know smurf about it. They arent the ones carrying it, popping it out, and having it by their side for the next 18 plus years.