re: abortion? so confused

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Miss Skellington~:</b>" you are very right, i don't but i didn't realize just HOW big of a debate this would turn into heh!"</blockquote>




Yeah, everyone has feeling about this subject and you have to understand that for women who can't have kids and whatnot this is even harder for them. But it is YOUR choice, you have every right to make it. It's about you and your family. No one on here can tell you what to do or how to feel, all we can do is support you or give you suggestions. I know you e said it does t bother you to hear others opinions but don't let their opinions get to you. They aren't living your life.

Quoting Jenna+1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~Miss Skellington~:</b>" you are very right, i don't but i ... [snip!] ... you e said it does t bother you to hear others opinions but don't let their opinions get to you. They aren't living your life."

Yeah, i can tell!
I always thought i'd never have another child as much as i want one.. That's one thing that has me SO torn on this, like it may truly be my LAST chance for a child and it kinda scares me to think that... but i still have to do what's best for my LIVING children before i worry about what *I* want

Quoting ~Miss Skellington~:" that's exactly my thoughts. I even thought of going back to school full time (that is another option to get them home) and being pregnant would kinda ruin that for me too :/"

Yeah. And if you did anything other than abortion, you wouldnt be the same mom to those kids <3

I stopped reading the replies at page 2...but my opinion is:
Abortion or not, the father deserves to know. What you do with your situation is your choice but imagine being in his position.
If you arent that close, dont know him very well and he lives 3500 miles away I doubt he will try and guilt you into keeping the baby...and im pretty positive he doesnt want to set himself up for child support payments for the next 18 years for someone he doesnt know very well...

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Yeah. And if you did anything other than abortion, you wouldnt be the same mom to those kids <3 "

exactly my feelings.

I told him, he hasn't said very much i think he's shocked. He just said he feels bad

Quoting ~Miss Skellington~:" exactly my feelings. I told him, he hasn't said very much i think he's shocked. He just said he feels bad"

Oh well...   You can PM me if you ever EVER need to talk

Quoting Youlanda Douros:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Artie Russell:</b>" I believe everything happens for a reason ... [snip!] ... it's not like you are giving them to somebody and never seeing them again. So please don't abort. :-( Best wishes momma! <3"

If someone wants to adopt a child, they can go adopt one of the millions of children up for adoption right now. but no, no one ever thinks about those children. everyone wants a white newborn

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Oh well...   You can PM me if you ever EVER need to talk "

thanks mama.
I know he's busy at work and such but i really wish he's like send them home for breakfast or something and talk to me! This being 3500 miles away kinda sucks :/
I'm about to ask him what he'd do if i kept it.. just to see what he thinks. wish me luck

Quoting ~Miss Skellington~:" thanks mama. I know he's busy at work and such but i really wish he's like send them home for breakfast ... [snip!] ... being 3500 miles away kinda sucks :/ I'm about to ask him what he'd do if i kept it.. just to see what he thinks. wish me luck"

************Luck Dust************

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" ************Luck Dust************"

nothing yet!

Quoting Artie Russell:" I believe everything happens for a reason you dont have to abort the child adoption is also and option ... [snip!] ... set and then give him/her to a loving family who wants kids but cant have one think about it but dont abortion the baby please"

No that was a great thing to say.. There are some people that can not have any children and they have to suffer.. Me myself do not believe in abortion so maybe I should not even be replying this but I was a victim of rape and every 1 told me to abort and never did and I have my baby girl and she is one of the most amazing things ever.. Just saying

He asked me how much it's going to cost and just keeps telling me he's sorry.
He wont answer me on IF I keep the baby. I won't let him pressure me into anything but he's not helping my confusion any more. I want to know what he's thinking about it...

Quoting ~Miss Skellington~:" He asked me how much it's going to cost and just keeps telling me he's sorry. He wont answer me on IF ... [snip!] ... let him pressure me into anything but he's not helping my confusion any more. I want to know what he's thinking about it..."

Well you asked and he wont give you a reply. And I think leaving it at that will be a good thing. Kinda like a clean break. You gotta get your kids back, and this would only hold you back.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Miss Skellington~:</b>" He asked me how much it's going to cost and just keeps telling me he's sorry. He wont answer me on IF ... [snip!] ... let him pressure me into anything but he's not helping my confusion any more. I want to know what he's thinking about it..."</blockquote>




Based on what you're saying I think what he's thinking is pretty clear. He wants the abortion too and feels bad about it. But it doesn't sound like he wants a kid.

Quoting Wanda George Gilbert:" No that was a great thing to say.. There are some people that can not have any children and they have ... [snip!] ... and every 1 told me to abort and never did and I have my baby girl and she is one of the most amazing things ever.. Just saying"

Good for you. Not everyone is you. They cant handle that. I think you should read what she has said before you said other things. She has other kids, so she has to think about them before this fetus.