re: abortion? so confused

<blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" Its not a baby.... a baby is what you hold after giving birth. If she gave birth right now it would not come out crying.. it wouldnt be a baby.  "</blockquote>




This doesn't matter. It wasn't posted in a protected thread so she has the right to say and believe what she wants.
Ill never understand how so many ppl can be pro choice, pro gay marriage, pro you make your own disicions but then fight to the death to prove others wrong in how they feel.
Everyone has the right to be and believe what they want.
OP, just wanted help and advice to help her think clearly.
She posted it here and said hearing others opinions don't bother her.
What is the point in fighting for your point of veiw here? She just gave OP HER opinion and suggested other options. There is nothing wrong with it.

Quoting Youlanda Douros:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Artie Russell:</b>" I believe everything happens for a reason ... [snip!] ... it's not like you are giving them to somebody and never seeing them again. So please don't abort. :-( Best wishes momma! <3"

it's not my job to have a child for another family if i don't want to especially when there are thousands of kids already in foster care waiting for a loving home!

and TRUST me, i struggled for TWO YEARS after my youngest was born and didn't get pregnant, so i VERY MUCH want this baby, but it's just not ideal to have a baby right now and i'm going to struggle with what ever decision i make

Quoting Jenna+1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" Its not a baby.... a baby is what ... [snip!] ... fighting for your point of veiw here? She just gave OP HER opinion and suggested other options. There is nothing wrong with it."

It was unnecessary and ignorant and is trying to guilt trip someone to do something they previously said they wouldnt do, just to get their agenda out.

Just wondering OP, and you don't have to answer, but I was snooping a bit and saw on your profile that your children were not living with you. Did you get them back yet?

Quoting Jenna+1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~Miss Skellington~:</b>" thanks mama. I have a LOT of thinking ... [snip!] ... know, and he should at least know what happened and what you choose. It could help him to make wiser choices in the future too."

yeahhh i asked him about it and told him i was leaning more for abortion but wanted to think about it and discuss it and he is ignoring me.. I mean, he DID say he had to start PT but as soon as i brought it up he starts ignoring me when he was talking away before :/ Maybe he'll talk with me after PT :/

Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" Just wondering OP, and you don't have to answer, but I was snooping a bit and saw on your profile that your children were not living with you. Did you get them back yet?"

not yet, the only thing holding me back it not having a job (another reason to have the abortion i can't even support the two i have living and breathing)

Quoting ~Miss Skellington~:" not yet, the only thing holding me back it not having a job (another reason to have the abortion i can't even support the two i have living and breathing)"

Oh, damn. That sucks. I'm sorry!

First of all, let me just say: ABORTION IS NOT BAD!! If that's the route you want to take it is entirely your choice. I'm all for adoption as well, but it means you have to go through the 9 months first. If that's not something you A) can afford on your own or B) want to experience (again) THEN DON"T DO IT!
I also would not tell the father. Simply because if you choose abortion, there is no more issue and therefore nothing to discuss with him. If you're not planning a relationship with him, if you don't know him that well, if he's not going to be in the picture... these are all the things YOU need to think about. Do what feels right for you..no one else. Best of luck!!

Quoting ~Miss Skellington~:" not yet, the only thing holding me back it not having a job (another reason to have the abortion i can't even support the two i have living and breathing)"

<3 I feel for you mama. Do this, get this out of the way [not meaing it to be mean or rude], get a job and get stable and get your living kids back.

Quoting Jenna+1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" Its not a baby.... a baby is what ... [snip!] ... fighting for your point of veiw here? She just gave OP HER opinion and suggested other options. There is nothing wrong with it."

The OP clearly started, in several posts, that adoption is not an option.

Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" Oh, damn. That sucks. I'm sorry! "

it does suck but there are seriously NO jobs here, or i blow the interview (how idk, i always think i do fairly well)

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" <3 I feel for you mama. Do this, get this out of the way [not meaing it to be mean or rude], get a job and get stable and get your living kids back. "

that's exactly my thoughts.
I even thought of going back to school full time (that is another option to get them home) and being pregnant would kinda ruin that for me too :/

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" The OP clearly started, in several posts, that adoption is not an option."</blockquote>




Yes she did, but maybe the person didn't read it. Idk I just think its better left alone cause OP also stated in several posts that she doesn't mind others opinions and it won't change her mind or guilt her...

I used to be pro life and would never have an abortion myself but about a year ago I went pro choice. I'd rather it be done safely and legally, Kwim? Also who am I to say what someone should or shouldn't do with their body?
It's not my right as its not my right to tell others not to be pro life.

Quoting speaktruth2powr:" The OP clearly started, in several posts, that adoption is not an option."

     

I do not want to carry a child, have them cut from me, deal with the pain and recover of that, the emotional crap of dealing with that AND having to give a child up along with the other reasons i have stated before!

It's either keep it or abort it and both are really crappy choices right now

Quoting Jenna+1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" The OP clearly started, in several posts, ... [snip!] ... what someone should or shouldn't do with their body? It's not my right as its not my right to tell others not to be pro life."

you are very right, i don't but i didn't realize just HOW big of a debate this would turn into heh!