re: abortion? so confused

Quoting Artie Russell:" I believe everything happens for a reason you dont have to abort the child adoption is also and option ... [snip!] ... set and then give him/her to a loving family who wants kids but cant have one think about it but dont abortion the baby please"

I agree with this. I have 2 wonderful nephews because someone wanted a better life for their newborn. We are so thankful that the biological mothers didn't decide to abort. Now these boys will have a wonderful life with a family that loves them.

I don't believe in or support abortion (unless the baby or mother's life is in danger) but if you are going to abort why even bother telling the father? Especially since there's nothing he can do about it.

Quoting Artie Russell:" I believe everything happens for a reason you dont have to abort the child adoption is also and option ... [snip!] ... set and then give him/her to a loving family who wants kids but cant have one think about it but dont abortion the baby please"

if i carried the child and had it, i's NEVER be able to give it up and i don't want to confuse my current children they wouldn't understand and if i'm not going to keep the baby, i couldn't mentally handle carrying the child full term.

Quoting Jenna+1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~Miss Skellington~:</b>" I don't care if it turns to that :/ ... [snip!] ... not it could make the decision to abort easier for you. It all up to you and how you feel, whatever choice you make good luck."

thank you.
I don't know what i want.
I'm SO torn.
I just don't know how i could do 3 kids alone, him only seeing the baby once or twice a year (unless he flew us out there more?) I think i may talk to him and see what he wants, if he agrees with the abortion great! If he doesn't well i have a lot of thinking to do and planning to figure things out if he really wants the baby

ugh this SUCKS

Ok here's the thing. Anyone can come on here and tell you it's wrong and what you should and should not do but it all comes down to you and what you feel like you need to do not anyone else in the world. I do agree that if you tell the Father he will guilt trip you all day because he may or may not believe in abortion but it is YOUR body. You life can either stay the same with your other children now or do a 180 on you. The thing about it is it is a very scary thing to go threw in the first stages of pregnancy. When I was about 17 I was drugged and then raped by a guy that I had no interest in who knew I had no interest so he turned desperate. I didn't even know how I made it home that night and I drove home..I woke up in my car and that is scary. If it wasn't for one of my best friends knowing who I was with I would have no idea how I even got pregnant. I was pro life before that baby but what people need to understand once you are in the position everything changes. I didn't want to do it but I knew I was too young and immature to handle the situation. I also had pressure coming from every direction get this..IF I DID NOT abort that child. It is beset to be private about it girl. Once again it's your choice. I have a wonderful 2 year old and another baby on the way...it will be ROUGH as HELL..but it will get better EITHER WAY whatever choice YOU make...NO ONE ELSE  

Quoting speaktruth2powr:" When I chose abortion, I was doing it for a similar reason. I was a single mother raising a child isolated ... [snip!] ... for one moment. I hope you aren't shamed into keeping a pregnancy by some of the ladies on here. I wouldn't tell the father. "

no, what some of these ladies think wont change my mind at all.
this is just a battle with myself on keeping it or not.

Quoting Love my 3 kids:" I agree with this. I have 2 wonderful nephews because someone wanted a better life for their newborn. ... [snip!] ... danger) but if you are going to abort why even bother telling the father? Especially since there's nothing he can do about it."

because maybe he would support my during it, even from as far away as he is? Maybe he would be a comfort during a tough and emotional time? I mean he's a great guy just not the ideal situation to bring a child into for either of us right now

Quoting ~Miss Skellington~:" no, what some of these ladies think wont change my mind at all. this is just a battle with myself on keeping it or not."

Okay good. I've seen them shame girls out of aborting and out of adoption....It's pathetic.

The one thing to remember is, stay strong. If you ever need to talk, just PM me....I'm usually around a computer most of the day and night.

Quoting Melissa Heidenescher:" Ok here's the thing. Anyone can come on here and tell you it's wrong and what you should and should not ... [snip!] ... another baby on the way...it will be ROUGH as HELL..but it will get better EITHER WAY whatever choice YOU make...NO ONE ELSE  "

thanks mama. I have a LOT of thinking to do.
this isn't how i wanted to start my day, but life happens, eh?
I was pretty stupid for having sex without protection anyways heh so it IS all my fault :/ I hope whatever i decide he's there for me... deployed or not

Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Okay good. I've seen them shame girls out of aborting and out of adoption....It's pathetic. The one ... [snip!] ... to remember is, stay strong. If you ever need to talk, just PM me....I'm usually around a computer most of the day and night."

thanks mama.

don't worry, i have a pretty tough skin haha
I stuck up for myself during my first pregnancy when i was being pressured to abort or give him up!

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Miss Skellington~:</b>" thanks mama. I have a LOT of thinking to do. this isn't how i wanted to start my day, but life happens, ... [snip!] ... sex without protection anyways heh so it IS all my fault :/ I hope whatever i decide he's there for me... deployed or not"</blockquote>




He might very well support whatever you want to do. Maybe he will be torn like you are. It's not garenteed that he will pressure you to keep it, he might pressure you to abort OR he could be for whatever YOU want and tell you he will support what you decide. You never know, and he should at least know what happened and what you choose. It could help him to make wiser choices in the future too.

You may be scared, babies are the most precious gift anyone could ask for. I would definitely let dad know even if things aren't perfect, if it was you in his position and all. It was scary at first with all mine but got thru tough times and you can also. I almost lost my last child worst feeling I ever experienced. I will keep you and family in prayers! You may be surprised and dad is a huge help. Hope your stress lightens and you get thru this but that baby is such an amazing gift. Wish you well and your child.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Artie Russell:</b>" I believe everything happens for a reason you dont have to abort the child adoption is also and option ... [snip!] ... set and then give him/her to a loving family who wants kids but cant have one think about it but dont abortion the baby please"</blockquote>



This!
Besides it wasn't the Childs fault that your now preganant. So why would you abort her/him. Not blaming either of you, i understand mine was a unplaned one as well. But there are alot of parents who can't have children that would love to have a child. My brother and I was adopted because my mom just wanted to party. There are also open adoptions were you still get to see your child, and it's not like you are giving them to somebody and never seeing them again. So please don't abort. :-( Best wishes momma! <3

Quoting Youlanda Douros:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Artie Russell:</b>" I believe everything happens for a reason ... [snip!] ... it's not like you are giving them to somebody and never seeing them again. So please don't abort. :-( Best wishes momma! <3"

It's not the obligation of women who can reproduce to do so for those who can't.

If they want children to raise, there are thousand waiting in foster care around the U.S. that are waiting for a home.

<blockquote><b>Quoting momma_of_3_angels:</b>" You may be scared, babies are the most precious gift anyone could ask for. I would definitely let dad ... [snip!] ... huge help. Hope your stress lightens and you get thru this but that baby is such an amazing gift. Wish you well and your child."</blockquote>



I agree with you

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" It's not the obligation of women who can reproduce to do so for those who can't. If they want children ... [snip!] ... can't. If they want children to raise, there are thousand waiting in foster care around the U.S. that are waiting for a home."</blockquote>




Okay everyone has their opinions she can do what she please she asked for options an I gave mine there #enufsaid