Quoting Safka9973:" Are they 100% firm on their decision? Both the BM and the BF? Adoptions can be such blessings, but ... [snip!] ... can always allow for this. Either way, it's all at your discretion until baby becomes an adult. I hope the best for you!"
They are 100% sure they want us to have her, we have talked about it and she does not want an open adoption, she would only see the baby at family gatherings and holidays with family (only time she would want to she the baby)
I will definitely get some books on twins