re: he won't make me his girlfriend . plz help

he was looking at rinngs two weeks ago and said he purchased one the other day. And ....if a guy needs to figure something out why does it nessecerily mean he's cheating . And only reason I'm debating is cause I asked what the title meant to a guy . Not for a jab at my relationship all together
. And it has turned into me defending my relationship instead of others opionons on what a title means . Thank you

<blockquote><b>Quoting bethenny:</b>" Hs isn't getting sex. He just bought a ring for me. And why else would he make it clear he wants no one else and make it clear he just wants to get stuff in order before getting back together."</blockquote>

My fiance told me that too. Almost exactly like that. I asked him why he did it later & he said so that I wouldn't sleep with anyone else or know that he had planned to. What exactly do you have to get in order? Are there problems in the relationship? Is there a reason you two broke up? Like a legitimate 'we need to fix this' problem?

Quoting bethenny:" he was looking at rinngs two weeks ago and said he purchased one the other day. And ....if a guy needs ... [snip!] ... all together . And it has turned into me defending my relationship instead of others opionons on what a title means . Thank you"

You're the one obsessing with the title, and you're obviously worried because he won't come out and SAY it. If a guy says he needs to figure things out, then he's not fully committed.

Quoting bethenny:" he was looking at rinngs two weeks ago and said he purchased one the other day. And ....if a guy needs ... [snip!] ... all together . And it has turned into me defending my relationship instead of others opionons on what a title means . Thank you"

You didnt ask for a debate you asked for help as per your title. He told you he bought a ring and then when you wanted to get back together he said no. Debate what you want get your story straight. Welcome to the real world of honesty. We arent your friends who are gonna blow smoke up your ass to make you feel better, we are women who have done the same bullsmurf and learned from it. Take it as you want to but honestly it's all good advice and suggestions. No one is stabbing at anything you asked you just didnt get the answer you wanted.

Quoting bethenny:" he was looking at rinngs two weeks ago and said he purchased one the other day. And ....if a guy needs ... [snip!] ... all together . And it has turned into me defending my relationship instead of others opionons on what a title means . Thank you"

Because it usually means he's cheating.

Quoting Snotface♫[usmc]:" Because it usually means he's cheating. "

  or looking at cheating.

Hmm...he SAID he bought a ring the other day. I could say I bought a $1.5 million dollar house, too, but that doesn't necessarily make it true. He's blowing smoke, honey. Believe us or not, but from what you have said, the signs are there.

Quoting PurpleBama582:" Seems like it. When I was 25, I had been married and divorced. Was just about to get remarried, had ... [snip!] ... with my third. I had done a lot of living by that point, and this kid obviously hasn't, and has a harsh lesson coming to her. "

I'm tired of being accused of being a child. And good for you. You dont know whT I've been through and how many lessons I've learned . I dont post my personal life and pics of my kids on baby gaga. I keep my life in the real world. You misunderstood my question and I guess thought I was looming for a relationship therapist. But since you wanna grab junk ...ive been married and divorced twice and have 2 kids and a career....my own home...my ow. Business started..and a good man which I appreciate you women helping me realize that if nothing else. Oh and I be glad to prove my age and what I just said. Just say the word. I'm not playing games with you anymore. I have low tolerance for drama. And for someone with two marriages under her belt as well I would expect better class. But anyways, not every man is. low life or cheating and every man is diff.
...i guess its hard to believe there's more to life than babys and babygaga
....some people have the ability to take breaks to work on themselves without cheating. I can see where most women take evrything a mN says and takes it wrong. I will stick to my gut. And you stick to your computer and I will not be posting anymore questions on this stupid site. Best wishes to all of you.

Quoting bethenny:" I'm tired of being accused of being a child. And good for you. You dont know whT I've been through and ... [snip!] ... gut. And you stick to your computer and I will not be posting anymore questions on this stupid site. Best wishes to all of you."

WAHHHHHHH! I didnt get what I wanted so I will make more smurf up.   Goodnight folks

And another one bites the dust.

Ladies our job here is done. 

Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting bethenny:</b>" Hs isn't getting sex. He just bought a ring for ... [snip!] ... Are there problems in the relationship? Is there a reason you two broke up? Like a legitimate 'we need to fix this' problem?"

you know what yes there is. If u wanna message me privatley I will talk. Thanks
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Quoting bethenny:" I'm tired of being accused of being a child. And good for you. You dont know whT I've been through and ... [snip!] ... gut. And you stick to your computer and I will not be posting anymore questions on this stupid site. Best wishes to all of you."

I have two marriages AND two divorces under my belt, thank you very much. I am a stay at home mom of three, with another one due in the summer, as well as a full-time college student. You're not here for drama, then you should have gotten your story straight the first time, and not gotten so butt-hurt when you didn't hear what you wanted to.

<blockquote><b>Quoting bethenny:</b>" he's looking at rings. And he didn't dump me. We both agreed to take. break to get things in order"</blockquote>

What's going to happen if he needs to focus on work while you're married?? Temporary legal separation?? Already things don't seem right. I'm not being rude. People are just trying to help you. And if EVERYONE is saying along the lines of the same thing then that should be a sign.

<blockquote><b>Quoting bethenny:</b>" he was looking at rinngs two weeks ago and said he purchased one the other day. And ....if a guy needs ... [snip!] ... all together . And it has turned into me defending my relationship instead of others opionons on what a title means . Thank you"</blockquote>




You weren't asking what a title meant to a guy. The title of your post clearly says "he won't make me his girlfriend. Please help."

<blockquote><b>Quoting bethenny:</b>" I'm tired of being accused of being a child. And good for you. You dont know whT I've been through and ... [snip!] ... gut. And you stick to your computer and I will not be posting anymore questions on this stupid site. Best wishes to all of you."</blockquote>




What the smurf??