re: he won't make me his girlfriend . plz help

Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ryloonjimama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting bethenny:</b>" ... [snip!] ... is everywhere. You just joined today..."</blockquote> Wait til she gets into a CIO, spanking, circ or vaxxing debate lol"

okay so your saying you have the exact same situation and if worked out in the end? How so. And he was cheating? He says alsos he doesn't want to jump right back into a relationship with me. Give it a few weeks.

Quoting bethenny:" I just figured he wants to be labeled single for a bit if he knows he sill bs settling down. Some men ... [snip!] ... And everytime he's at work that's really where he is. I've seen proof. And that leaves al the other hours aquired for too."

If he was seriously committed, then he wouldn't mind being labeled as "in a relationship" or whatever. If he knew he'd still be settling down, a "title" or "label" wouldn't matter.

Quoting BoogsMaMa:" NO, if he wanted to settle down you would have a ring on your finger and not worrying about why he dumped you."

he's looking at rings. And he didn't dump me. We both agreed to take. break to get things in order

Quoting bethenny:" he's looking at rings. And he didn't dump me. We both agreed to take. break to get things in order"

No you don't agree, you want him back you told him that he wants more time away. Sorry. I am really not being mean I am being realistic about the situation. Men who want to commit....they commit. Men who don't get away.

Quoting bbbt:" If he isn't up to something shady then he has no legitimate reason for not committing to you with labels. However, it's possible he just doesn't like you, and is just using you for sex. "

That one is also true. He could just be using you for sex but is looking for some one else in the mean time.

Yes, we were together for 7 months & he pulled what your boyfriend is now. He started by telling me he wanted a little space(we practically lived together so I could understand that)& then he broke up with me but said if I was willing to wait a week or so for him to figure things out that we would 'officially' get back together. That night we still were all over eachother but the next day he went & slept with someone else. We got back together 4 days afterwards. He felt bad & when he told me he cried because he knew how much it would hurt me. It took some working through but 1 month before our 1 year anniversary I got pregnant with my son. Since then my fiance has grown up a lot, he got a good job & got his priorities straightened out. If you are willing to make it work, it can work.

Hs isn't getting sex. He just bought a ring for me. And why else would he make it clear he wants no one else and make it clear he just wants to get stuff in order before getting back together.

Quoting bethenny:" Hs isn't getting sex. He just bought a ring for me. And why else would he make it clear he wants no one else and make it clear he just wants to get stuff in order before getting back together."

You just went from saying he looked at rings to he bought rings??? which is it. IDK how to help you, any advice you get you try to justify it or change what you previously said, and if any of its true you should be skeptical. I am out.

Quoting BoogsMaMa:" You just went from saying he looked at rings to he bought rings??? which is it. IDK how to help you, ... [snip!] ... you get you try to justify it or change what you previously said, and if any of its true you should be skeptical. I am out."

I was just going to say something very similar.

Don't forget these OP




you know, because you insist on swimming.....
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<blockquote><b>Quoting BoogsMaMa:</b>" NO, if he wanted to settle down you would have a ring on your finger and not worrying about why he dumped you."</blockquote>


haha.

Quoting PurpleBama582:" I was just going to say something very similar. "

Its obvious shes a kid who got dumped and cant accept it so while in denial she will justify everything, really doesnt want advice because it isnt what she wants to hear....or its all bullsmurf. Some kid who thinks everyone should have smurf rainbows and told her "everything will be fine he needs a little time" when that isnt the situation if their is a situation to begin with.

Quoting bethenny:" Hs isn't getting sex. He just bought a ring for me. And why else would he make it clear he wants no one else and make it clear he just wants to get stuff in order before getting back together."

He is telling you what you want to hear. You don't know what he's telling people when he's at work or any other time he's not with you. And you can't say "He's looking at rings" then turn around and say "he just bought a ring for me" a few minutes later. You're flip-flopping and changing your story.

Quoting BoogsMaMa:" Its obvious shes a kid who got dumped and cant accept it so while in denial she will justify everything, ... [snip!] ... told her "everything will be fine he needs a little time" when that isnt the situation if their is a situation to begin with."

Seems like it. When I was 25, I had been married and divorced. Was just about to get remarried, had 2 kids and was pregnant with my third. I had done a lot of living by that point, and this kid obviously hasn't, and has a harsh lesson coming to her.

Quoting bethenny:" Hs isn't getting sex. He just bought a ring for me. And why else would he make it clear he wants no one else and make it clear he just wants to get stuff in order before getting back together."

Sounds like you can't keep your story straight. Sorry it isn't what you want to hear but it is the truth. Dh and I never had titles for each other untile we got married. When we were together it was understood and when we weren't together it was also understood but it was never you are my girlfriend/boyfriend. If he straight up said he doesn't want to be your boyfriend right now then he is TELLING you that he doesn't want the commitment of being with JUST you. There is simply no other reason other wise for him to do so.