First grade homework

I think my oldest daughter is bored with most of what she is learning in school and keeps purposefully forgetting her homework so she can stay in for a bit of recess and chat with her teacher and other kids in the room.

DH and I went and met with her teacher last night over her not bringing her folders and homework home twice in the past week and a half. Her teacher definitely agrees that she is bored with the work, and prefers playing indoors during the winter.

We just got her report card, and her grades are all excellent. She's on honor roll, but her grades for effort are rated lower than her Os and As in subjects.

I am getting frustrated with her purposeful behavior of failing to bring home her work! She has done this throughout the school year a few times.

I hope having DH and me tag team the teacher in her presence will help her understand that enough is enough, but if it doesn't, any suggestions?

I'm also not sure how to improve her effort levels. They are Ss but she has As and Os as I said.

Kid, you're not trying hard enough but you got the highest grade? Ummm. Obviously I'd like to see a perfect report card, but I'm wondering if perhaps she just needs more stimulation? If the work is easy, how much effort CAN you put into it?

Thoughts?

Tag team the teacher? Why?

You need to make sure she knows how important the work is and that she will lose privileges is she keeps screwing around

I did the same thing. My peers didnt like me and I'd rather be in with the teacher in trouble then stand outside alone

Maybe have a reward for every A she gets? If she gets straight A's you will take her to ice cream or a movie?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly&Coralie:</b>" Tag team the teacher? Why? You need to make sure she knows how important the work is and that she will lose privileges is she keeps screwing around"</blockquote>




Tag team- my husband and I went TOGETHER to chat with her and her teacher so she could see all of us adults on the same page, and let her know what we expect of her am that it is her responsibility and no one else's to get her school work home.

When she fails to bring her work home, since he has repeated this behavior, she loses tv for a week, and gets to spend the evening of the night she forgot her papers reading and doing homework I prepare for her.

Quoting Safka9973:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly&Coralie:</b>" Tag team the teacher? Why? You need to ... [snip!] ... tv for a week, and gets to spend the evening of the night she forgot her papers reading and doing homework I prepare for her."

Oh ok. The only time I have heard the word tag team is in a negative connotation.

Do they think she's advanced enough for testing? Or do they not do advanced classes that early? I know all school districts are different.

Our teachers send home a homework packet at the beginning of the week and they have to turn it in every Friday. It gives them the option of what they want to do and when. My son finishes the entire packet in an hour.

When he was going through a phase where he was refusing to even TRY to do stuff we knew that he knew how to do, we implemented a reward system. A sticker chart with a goal to work towards.

I would say if she responds to negative punishment, then I would go the route of removing toys or privileges if she continues to not bring her homework home and do it. If she's like my son and doesn't care about having things taken away, you might have to go to positive reinforcement and reward her for remembering to do it or positive punishment and ADD things to her list of chores or make her write a letter of apology to her teacher or something.

I have had issues lately with my 3rd grade son "forgetting" his homework, or the book they are reading at school. He is very bored with the work he does. Do you pick her up from school? I now check every day when I pick him up to make sure he has everything with him, and if he does not, we walk right back into the school and in his classroom to get it. The one thing I liked about my sons teacher for 2nd grade is she had the class broken up into groups...and my son was in the Apple Group, which was for advanced students, and she gave them work above grade level to challenge them...and they were graded for it and he was still straight As.

If she wants to stay in at recess and chat then take it away. Have the school set up a room where she sits ALONE with no one else for every time she forgets her homework. If she seeks hanging out with her teacher and peers then take it away. I bet she will do her homework then!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Blair Waldorf (SuperKink):</b>" Do they think she's advanced enough for testing? Or do they not do advanced classes that early? I know ... [snip!] ... or positive punishment and ADD things to her list of chores or make her write a letter of apology to her teacher or something."</blockquote>




She responds well to both. Then she has a couple of months of never missing a day of homework, and then she will have a few rough weeks.
The school doesn't test this early for gifted. I wish they did, because her work is not challenging to her and so she doesn't focus on it at all. As a result she is at the top of her class for her grades, but she is messy, disorganized and irresponsible with her work. Frequently turning it in late, losing it etc.

I pick the kids up from school off and on. Most often I do not. DH is the same. It is definitely a good idea to do this, but the timing is bad. We are always super busy around this time of day and the extra half an hour it takes for the bus gives DH and I time to get the evening in order. Then of course it's also some admitted laziness on our parts. As soon as the older kids get home, the evening becomes incredibly busy.