If your SO didn't want to be in the delivery room

If you had been dating someone for a while, but had no children, and the subject of having kids came up.

And he said he wanted a baby with you
But he did NOT want to be in the delivery room with you.
Specifically
"Im not going to change my mind on that. I'll wait in the waiting room. Your mom can be in there with you. I don't want to see that. It will gross me out and then I know I'll never want to have sex with you again"

Would you be offended or brush it off?

I don't know if "offended" is the right word.... but I would have serious doubts about having children with that person... I'd want someone to be there with me when our child was born, and when I wanted them there.

TBH that would make me think a little less of him[depending on his age of course - that's a normal response for a 20 year old but a VERY immature one for a 30 year old] but I wouldn't be too offended.

It would bother me.... I would be hurt that he was refusing to even try to look past the "gross" aspects of it to support and help me.

I wouldn't be offended. I honestly wanted my sisterin there more than I wanted anybody else in there.

Quoting The Doctor:" I don't know if "offended" is the right word.... but I would have serious doubts about having children ... [snip!] ... having children with that person... I'd want someone to be there with me when our child was born, and when I wanted them there."

  Yep. In truth? It would most likely be a deal breaker for me if that's the attitude he had about it.

I wouldn't use the word offended, but I WOULD be double thinking a future or children with this person if they can't handle something like that. I think that would be a deal breaker for me...

I wouldn't have kids with them.. your SO is supposed o be there to supper you i the delivery of the child you both made. I find him saying that very immature.

I would be offended. SO is the only one I want in the delivery room with me. I just wouldn't feel comfortable having any other family members there and to me its all about bonding as a family first and I want it to be just us seeing the baby first. I probably wouldn't have children with someone who didn't want to be present at the birth of his child.

I think I could appreciate the fact that he's being honest about how he feels about that subject.

I was listening to the radio one morning and they had a caller call in with an "issue". His issue was ever since he was in the delivery room with his wife while their child was born he had issues with being intimate with her after the baby was born, and it was seriously affecting their marriage.

I think that it would really hurt my feelings that he wouldn't want to be there, but it's not like he wouldn't be at the hospital at all. I mean, back in the day the dads stayed in the waiting room anyway.

32 years old BTW

It'd probably be a deal breaker for me, that is just something IMO that i need to share with my DH, he's my support. If he had said that he wouldn't be in the room and that he'd find it gross i'd of told him to smurf off.

That would bother the hell out of me. And make me severely question his maturity and ability to handle fatherhood.
You don't know how you're going to act when you see a child being born. DH would watch child birth videos with me and he'd be grossed out and close his eyes. He said seeing his child being born was the most beautiful thing he's ever seen and he cried.

Quoting Derpy the Duck:"   Yep. In truth? It would most likely be a deal breaker for me if that's the attitude he had about it. "

Me, too.

Quoting A&J. ♥:" If you had been dating someone for a while, but had no children, and the subject of having kids came ... [snip!] ... that. It will gross me out and then I know I'll never want to have sex with you again" Would you be offended or brush it off?"

I'd brush it off. There is a big difference between what you THINK you would do and what yuo actually want. Heck, *I* didn't want my husband in the room until I actually got pregnant. Before it's YOUR baby I think you see things differently.

Honestly, even if my husband didn't want to be there I wouldn't really care. I'd be offended if he wanted to be elsewhere (like, with friends) but just because he didn't want to be in the room? Nope. Heck, I wish I didn't have to be in the room, haha