re: If your SO didn't want to be in the delivery room

Quoting A&J. ♥:" 32 years old BTW"

Uh yeah. He needs to man up.

ETA: DH is 31, held my leg while I was pushing and watched the whole entire vaginal delivery. And he's still a hornball with me lol.

Nope.

My husband said that if we have a child, he won't be in the room...I don't really care either way.

It would bother me in that it seems like his first concern is himself and sex. But I don't want DH with me.

I don't know.. he could be in there and not see if he just didn't look lol. Saying that, I wanted my SO out in the waiting room. I don't like people seeing me in pain and I was so afraid he'd faint (he can't handle any kind of blood, he gets sick at nose bleeds and paper cuts for real). He wanted to be in there for the birth of his baby though so he stuck it out and in the end saw a whole lot more than he wanted to see. I sympathize with your SO. If you convince 'em to be in there, might wanna let the docs know he's uncomfortable so they don't ask him to cut the cord or anything. My husband did it but he was really not okay with it LOL.

Quoting [♥]Mrs. Morgan:" I think I could appreciate the fact that he's being honest about how he feels about that subject. I ... [snip!] ... but it's not like he wouldn't be at the hospital at all. I mean, back in the day the dads stayed in the waiting room anyway."

I heard that same thing... and honestly... that's all well and good that he was being honest... but that's not the kind of man I would want to be with.

Quoting [♥]Mrs. Morgan:" I think I could appreciate the fact that he's being honest about how he feels about that subject. I ... [snip!] ... but it's not like he wouldn't be at the hospital at all. I mean, back in the day the dads stayed in the waiting room anyway."

I feel like that is so immature. I mean I get it not being the prettiest thing and all but that is what our bodies were made to do and a grown man should be able to get past that. My husband was right down there with our first and helped catch her. I'm not saying you have to do that but at least be there for support if she needs it.

Quoting The Doctor:" I heard that same thing... and honestly... that's all well and good that he was being honest... but that's not the kind of man I would want to be with."

Exactly. To each their own though I suppose.

I wouldn't be offended, I would hope he'd change his mind [without pushing the issue]...it's customary in some parts that the men aren't present for the actual birthing!

But, the last bit about "It will gross me out and then I know I'll never want to have sex with you again" is really immature and it would make me wonder what kind of man I was dating!?

It would definately put me off a bit, but if he doesnt have kids, than maybe he was just talking out of his ass. Alot of people have opinions about pregnancy, birth, and parenting before actually dealing with it, and alot of those opinions change when they are actually in the situation. If he was really serious, I think it would be a deal breaker for me, because I would want someone who is willing to stand by me no matter what happens.

Quoting Elle With Three &1/2:" I wouldn't use the word offended, but I WOULD be double thinking a future or children with this person if they can't handle something like that. I think that would be a deal breaker for me..."

^^^^ THIS

Quoting The Doctor:" I heard that same thing... and honestly... that's all well and good that he was being honest... but that's not the kind of man I would want to be with."

Yeah, DH was in the car with me while it was going on, and I turned to him and asked if my vagina grossed him out now. LOL. Obviously it doesn't because we're pregnant again, but that was something that I hadn't even thought about before that guy on the radio brought it up.

Hell, I HAD to be in the room, but I didn't want to see or touch it. It grosses me out. And I know it doesn't look the same as before. It's just something we deal with.

Quoting Derpy the Duck:" Exactly. To each their own though I suppose. "

Absolutely! If both people agree that the father will wait outside, great!

For me, that's right up there with "well, you're the mom so you have to deal with all the diapers and I'm not going to wake up at all at night because I'm the dad."

But every family is different, and every couple is different.

Quoting Supafly★:" Uh yeah. He needs to man up. ETA: DH is 31, held my leg while I was pushing and watched the whole entire vaginal delivery. And he's still a hornball with me lol. "

  DH was 28 when we had DS, and he did the same. I was the one who didnt want to see it  

Quoting .chele.:" I wouldn't be offended, I would hope he'd change his mind [without pushing the issue]...it's customary ... [snip!] ... know I'll never want to have sex with you again" is really immature and it would make me wonder what kind of man I was dating!?"

you know it really does gross a bunch of men out though but they don't admit it. There was an article on it not too long ago.

if he helped create that kid, he's gonna be in there experiencing it with me, damn it.

on a related note, i DO know of a couple that separated after the birth of their child. a MARRIED couple... they divorced because the husband watched the birth and said he was no longer attracted to his wife. smurfing dick.