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Thank you ladies.

Sounds like you need to schedule a regular date night.

Have you tried doing the small stuff then? By small stuff I mean cuddling, hugging, and so forth.

Spice it up then.

Be the person you want him to be. You want him to cuddle? Initiate it. You want to have sex more? Initiate it. Make yourself have positive thoughts and soon it will be second nature.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amberchik78:</b>" Be the person you want him to be. You want him to cuddle? Initiate it. You want to have sex more? Initiate it. Make yourself have positive thoughts and soon it will be second nature."</blockquote>


 

Watching! I think I feel the exact same.

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" Sounds like you need to schedule a regular date night."</blockquote>

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Dh and I fell into a rut and just did the motions of life I guess so now we go out for dinner and a movie at least every other weekend (we make sure to include it in our budget)

I feel this way, also. I am back to working nights, so DH and I barely get time together. We hardly ever hugs, kiss, get intimate... it's pretty depressing now that I'm thinking about it. I've been telling DH that we needs more date nights, but it never happens. I'd mention counseling, but he says it's silly and we don't need it. DS has totally taken all of our attention, which is fine, because we love him dearly... but it's time for us to start taking more time for ourselves and each other. Hang in there, momma. I hope it gets easier.

Marriage counseling doesn't always cost money. There are resources for people who can't afford it. But beyond that, it starts at home. Like other ladies on here said, be intimate with him. Give him praises... even if you don't feel it now, you might find that the more you say it, the more you believe it. Focus on his positive attributes. It's totally normal to go on a roller coaster of emotions during marriage. When it's dry, you just have to work at it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Asher's mommy [Expecting :</b>" Marriage counseling doesn't always cost money. There are resources for people who can't afford it. But ... [snip!] ... It's totally normal to go on a roller coaster of emotions during marriage. When it's dry, you just have to work at it."</blockquote>

We have a church here that does free marriage COunseling.

ask at churches for counseling usally free or very low cost. or maybe a date night to spice things up

not that I'm saying this will work, but when I was in that stage in my marriage I did something so small you'd think it doesn't matter. when my husband came home at night, I got up, walked to him, kissed him hello and asked him about his day. sounds cheesy and lame but that opened up touch and conversation. I have done it every single day. makes a huge difference

* on days he's an smurf, a still kiss him but say "hi smurf, how was your day?" but I always say it

Quoting Barfy McVomitron:" not that I'm saying this will work, but when I was in that stage in my marriage I did something so small ... [snip!] ... day. sounds cheesy and lame but that opened up touch and conversation. I have done it every single day. makes a huge difference"

We do that too lol, I think it helps set the tone for rest of night.