Paraniod.

I just started daiting this guy back in November. And I'm scared smurfless. Before him and I started daiting, he was talking to this married gal. I don't know what the extent of the relationship was, never asked. All I know is that her husband didn't like them talking. Doesn't say much so whateves. This weekend, he told me he's talking to her again. And she's still married and blah blah. It scares me because it didn't stop him from talking to her before. I told him that it kinda bothers me but he's still talking to her. I'm not the type to tell him who not to talk to and smurf but I really, really like him and it scares me to the point of just breaking things off. I just feel like I have too much at risk right now, I don't feel like getting a broken heart any time soon, not saying he would do anything againts me, but I don't want to wait and see. I didn't want a relationship right now, neither did he but things happened. Now I'm regretting it big time. Has anybody else gone threw something like this? Advice?

can i ask a personal question??

have you ever been cheated on before?


i was cheated on by BD. and because of that im always worried that it will happen again. i just sat down with my current SO and explained that i cant go threw that again and if he feels the need to cheat or be with another woman then the tell me and break things off.
its hard but if you truely like this guy and trust him then stay with him, but explain your concern. be nice about it and dont automatically accuse him of cheating but state that since its happened before your worried it could happen again and that him talking to this married woman has you a little concerned.

good luck

Quoting Deborah B.:" can i ask a personal question?? have you ever been cheated on before? i was cheated on by BD. and ... [snip!] ... before your worried it could happen again and that him talking to this married woman has you a little concerned. good luck"

I have and I've been with real smurfs.
I feel like it's not going to help my crazy little mind. And I also feel like I'm over reacting. But usually when I get a gut feeling like this, it's never good.

Talking to her, knowing her husband doesn't approve would make me question his character. Depends in their relationship I guess, and how serious you and him are.