its so weird being alone

When me and ex got together I was in a bad place (partying, drugs, etc) I had dropped out of school and was just being an idoit.
I depended on him for EVERYTHING.
Friendship, money, shelter, rides, everything.
Once I got pregnant I began studying for my GED.
but I am not ready to test yet. & We just broke up and now I feel loke pne of those women my mom talk about who are lost without their man in their life. Like this just put triple the stress on me cause we had plans of whar we were gonna do when LO got here & now I gotta fond out how to do it all alone. & I feel so bad for LO cause she's basically being robbed of a "normal" life. I didnt have a dad in my life & now sje doesn't. & I cant help but to kick myself over it.
I dont know wher3 to start fixing smurf.
And on top of that my heart hurts. It feels like my whole chest dropped and its gonna fall out my ass.
 

Having mom and dad together in a bad relationship does not qualify as a "normal" life. Stop beating yourself up over being a single mother to be. You dont need to depend on a man for anything. Continue to study for your GED and get a job. Many woman have done it on their own before you and have been good mothers. You can do it too. I may have a SO now but I still raise my son by myself without help from his deadbeat sperm donor.

Chin up mama. You can and will do this! Noone is robbing your child of a good life if you get out there and do whats right. Finish your GED, get a job and provide for your child.

The only thing you can really do is get it together for your daughter. Become strong for her. My mother raised 3 kids without a man & I didn't miss out because my dad was a deadbeat. If you stay solely dependent on a man then it will control every aspect of your life. You have a baby on the way that is going to depend on you so you have to do your best to learn to rely on yourself. Its hard but it will be worth it in the end. I hope things get better for you

Your ex was never there and always lied to you. So with that, I doubt he ever intended on following through with any of those plans. You should depend on yourself for a balance in life, not a man to fill all voids. No break up is easy at first but you left him for a good reason.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sami&Baby Silas:</b>" Having mom and dad together in a bad relationship does not qualify as a "normal" life. Stop beating yourself ... [snip!] ... your child of a good life if you get out there and do whats right. Finish your GED, get a job and provide for your child."</blockquote>




Thanks ..
I just feel like if I would have made bettrr decisions I would of ended up in a better situation? Regardless im gonna make sure she has the best lofe I can provide. I just dont get why because you "dislike" me you turn your baxk on ur daughter..
Its life tho I guess

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:</b>" The only thing you can really do is get it together for your daughter. Become strong for her. My mother ... [snip!] ... to do your best to learn to rely on yourself. Its hard but it will be worth it in the end. I hope things get better for you"</blockquote>




Thanks im tryinf. Just a bit lost right now.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" Your ex was never there and always lied to you. So with that, I doubt he ever intended on following through ... [snip!] ... yourself for a balance in life, not a man to fill all voids. No break up is easy at first but you left him for a good reason."</blockquote>




That is true. Irs just like idk what to do witj myself.
Like of course the obvious things like cpntinie to get my life tpgether & what not.
But I feel so weird not being with him. I have NO friends. Its just sp lonely.
Thank god for my dog lol

This may not be the most appealing idea ever but you could look for a single moms support group in your area. That would give you a chance to socialize, make friends & even have help finding a job, housing assistance & anything else you may need for your baby too

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:</b>" This may not be the most appealing idea ever but you could look for a single moms support group in your ... [snip!] ... to socialize, make friends & even have help finding a job, housing assistance & anything else you may need for your baby too"</blockquote>




Yeah I might look into that..
Thanks  

<blockquote><b>Quoting KelseyLynn:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" Your ex was never there and always lied to ... [snip!] ... & what not. But I feel so weird not being with him. I have NO friends. Its just sp lonely. Thank god for my dog lol"</blockquote>




It's time for you to find yourself again. You got way too lost in this guy.

Quoting KelseyLynn:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sami&Baby Silas:</b>" Having mom and dad together in a bad relationship ... [snip!] ... best lofe I can provide. I just dont get why because you "dislike" me you turn your baxk on ur daughter.. Its life tho I guess"

You will always find yourself going "I wish I would've done this or that" I still do to this day. I will never regret my son but I regret who I had him with. The relationship was horrible and it took me moving on and doing the right thing to realize that. You can do this!
Some guys just don't care. He may or may not come around later but you have to be strong and not fall for it again. If he was willing to walk away once he will do it again. Be the strong independent woman you can be  
As another mama posted look into support groups and mother classes. It will really help you. You would be surprised how many woman are in your same situation! Talk to your friends and family and build your support system that will encourage you to continue down the right path for that precious girl you're going to be bringing into this world   If you ever need someone to talk to feel free to PM me