re: I hate sex

<blockquote><b>Quoting My Widdle:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Up In Smoke Signals:</b>" SO was the only one I was with until ... [snip!] ... though I love him I just feel like sometime in my life I should experience it with another guy. That sounds bad but yea, idk."</blockquote>

Meh the grass is always greener on the other side, but it's still just grass.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vivian [♥]:</b>" I usually just like 3-4 times a month try to just let DH have a go. But he takes foreverrrrrrrrrrrr ... [snip!] ... he stopped complaining though. I was so sick with morning sickness and by time it got better I was in pain and had a belly."</blockquote>




I'm the same way, I hate how long he takes and I usually make him skip the whole foreplay stuff so that it takes less time. A few times I have during sex been like, ok well I'm done and made him just stop....

Quoting My Widdle:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Up In Smoke Signals:</b>" SO was the only one I was with until ... [snip!] ... though I love him I just feel like sometime in my life I should experience it with another guy. That sounds bad but yea, idk."

SO and I have been on and off for over 6 years. We broke up in November and I got with somebody else right before Christmas and we got back together around New Years. It hasn't really changed anything. I still don't really like sex. I barely even remember the sex with the other guy but I know it happened.
I attribute it to Mirena but I was like this before Mirena. I mean, that's why I'd only been with SO. I could have gotten with others before but I just had no desire to.

<blockquote><b>Quoting My Widdle:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting saageex3:</b>" I'm the same way. I'm starting to think maybe ... [snip!] ... I've thought about that as well, and SO is the only guy I've ever had sex with, so maybe that's why?"</blockquote>



I didn't see how old you were but you look young. It may be just you tired of the same thing over and over. Before SO I was never with the same guy for long. I felt like the sex got boring and so I moved along but with SO I do love him, the sex is the only problem. It's just something you have to work through if you feel you want to be with him but if there's no sexual attraction ts going to be a big struggle

<blockquote><b>Quoting iisabell:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting My Widdle:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting iisabell:</b>" ... [snip!] ... of issues and I feel bad for s/o because he cant stay away from me and I refuse to be touched its discusting to me sometimes"</blockquote>




That's understandable and hopefully he understands as well and isn't too pushy.

I was exactly like this until I stopped taking my birth control. Best decision ever.

Quoting norah's.momma✿:" I was exactly like this until I stopped taking my birth control. Best decision ever."

I wish I could stop taking mine. Two more years.

<blockquote><b>Quoting saageex3:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting My Widdle:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting saageex3:</b>" ... [snip!] ... you have to work through if you feel you want to be with him but if there's no sexual attraction ts going to be a big struggle"</blockquote>




I'm 22, and it may just be that's its gotten old to me, that's what my friends say. I haven't had that newness with anyone in a long time

Quoting My Widdle:" <blockquote><b>Quoting saageex3:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting My Widdle:</b>" ... [snip!] ... it may just be that's its gotten old to me, that's what my friends say. I haven't had that newness with anyone in a long time"

The newness isn't worth it. Especially if you love your SO and sex is the only issue.

Quoting Up In Smoke Signals:" I wish I could stop taking mine. Two more years."

I just couldn't take it any longer. I literally didn't even want to live anymore. It made me that miserable.

I am 100% back to normal now. But we aren't TTC until July... so we have to be extra careful ;)

<blockquote><b>Quoting Up In Smoke Signals:</b>" The newness isn't worth it. Especially if you love your SO and sex is the only issue."</blockquote>




Yeah I'm not going to screw our relationship over newness with someone else. I just feel like now that we are going to have a child together that we are stuck together no matter what, even if I end up not wanting to be with him anymore. Like I won't be able to be with anyone else ( not that I want to but if something did happen later on)

<blockquote><b>Quoting norah's.momma✿:</b>" I just couldn't take it any longer. I literally didn't even want to live anymore. It made me that miserable. ... [snip!] ... It made me that miserable. I am 100% back to normal now. But we aren't TTC until July... so we have to be extra careful ;)"</blockquote>

Yeah I would have to abort if I got pregnant within the next couple of years. We can't do it. We're both in school and working and have a roommate as it is. Can't afford living on our own let alone with a baby. So I just deal. I don't hate my birth control. Just the asexuality that goes with it.

Ugh i get in those moods sometime's too,but i have sex anyway if i'm not in the mood to please him and get it over with. LOL. I never tell him that though,my sex drive has been low before i gave birth.

I never liked having sex, because I have been raped my three different guys, molested by more than five, and been sexually harassed by to many to count.

I actually found this page and testimony because I am desperate. I don't know how I can do this all my life. I don't care about sex, never have and I don't think it will change after I'm 30. My partner of 11 years says he can't live without us having sex, but I am simply too tired by the time evening comes to please him (as I don't have the urge or the need to be pleasured) and if we skip all the weekdays, by the time weekend comes, I am so detached from a sex-life I find all the excuses not to get down to it. I don't find it interesting, and mainly, I don't find orgasms, however strong to be worth while all the time sex takes up...I wanted to see how others feel, and if anyone had gone to a sex-therapist with any results..Have you?