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What would you do?

break up with him	82% (37 votes)
ignore it	4% (2 votes)
other...I am just at a loss	13% (6 votes)

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lolajessup

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posted 16th Jan

<blockquote>Quoting Kyleigh'sMommy12:" i think* she said it was when they were together for four months,.....TWO YEARS ago...lol "</blockquote>

The cheating but I didn't know about the emails.

She said she got the one email today.

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I have 2 kids & 1 angel baby & live in Beaverton, Michigan

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PRETTY IN RED

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posted 16th Jan

<blockquote>Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote>Quoting endless possibilities:" no. But we got together right away ... [snip!] ... a huge deciding factor. I could maybe get over te cheating since it was early on. But if the emails are recent thats a no go."</blockquote>

This!! I agree but it doesnt change if it was now or before. The way you said it is time to move on without him and not even question that. What makes her think he is going to stop doing what he is doing. I dont care if he has promised her a bunch of lies. She need to think of her kids and leave asap. What is that going to teach her kids in the long run?

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Mrs.Dixon1228

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posted 16th Jan

Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote>Quoting Kyleigh'sMommy12:" i think* she said it was when they were ... [snip!] ... ago...lol "</blockquote> The cheating but I didn't know about the emails. She said she got the one email today."

if im not mistaken, she got the messages between him and her herself, but the email was from some girl...idk i might be wrong...i took it that the emails were from two years ago four months into their relationship

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I have 1 child & live in Princeton, West Virginia

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lolajessup

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posted 16th Jan

<blockquote>Quoting Kyleigh'sMommy12:" if im not mistaken, she got the messages between him and her herself, but the email was from some girl...idk ... [snip!] ... from some girl...idk i might be wrong...i took it that the emails were from two years ago four months into their relationship"</blockquote>

Idk either. I'm so lost. I'm sure it didn't make sense because her mind is probably in 100 diff directions

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I have 2 kids & 1 angel baby & live in Beaverton, Michigan

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posted 16th Jan

sorry ladies, I'm just confused. The emails I just got, but they had dates on them and they were from July of 2011. What I don't know is if I should just overlook it since so much time has passed, even though it hurts so badly?

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I'm due November 9th, have 6 kids & live in Tacoma, Washington

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Mrs.Dixon1228

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posted 16th Jan

Quoting endless possibilities:" sorry ladies, I'm just confused. The emails I just got, but they had dates on them and they were from ... [snip!] ... July of 2011. What I don't know is if I should just overlook it since so much time has passed, even though it hurts so badly?"

do you think he is cheating on you now with her?

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I have 1 child & live in Princeton, West Virginia

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My♥Maja&Livija

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posted 16th Jan

So if the email from your "secret admirer" I think she dumb for saying "I" then saying "her" lol she's dumb and just trying to get a rise out of you. As for his messages to her those were when they first broke up? Anything recent?

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I'm TTC since August '12, have 2 kids & live in Santa Cruz, California

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Mrs.Dixon1228

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posted 16th Jan

Quoting My♥Maja&Livija:" So if the email from your "secret admirer" I think she dumb for saying "I" then saying "her" lol she's ... [snip!] ... dumb and just trying to get a rise out of you. As for his messages to her those were when they first broke up? Anything recent?"

thats what im saying...

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I have 1 child & live in Princeton, West Virginia

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lolajessup

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posted 16th Jan

<blockquote>Quoting endless possibilities:" sorry ladies, I'm just confused. The emails I just got, but they had dates on them and they were from ... [snip!] ... July of 2011. What I don't know is if I should just overlook it since so much time has passed, even though it hurts so badly?"</blockquote>

He's fonna have to get over it and talk this out with you. This can't come between you if she's just trying to stir smurf up.

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I have 2 kids & 1 angel baby & live in Beaverton, Michigan

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aneyeinthesun

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posted 17th Jan

I think that you should bring up that you're still having a hard time with him cheating, and that you know he doesn't want to talk about it anymore, but you feel like it's holding you back in the relationship. Maybe suggest some couples counseling or something, and if he says he's done because you won't give it up or whatever, it's not worth staying.
That sounds awful, I know, but working through problems together should be a main priority.

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I'm due November 17th, have 2 kids & 3 angel babies & live in Washington

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endless possibilities

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posted 17th Jan

thanks ladies

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I'm due November 9th, have 6 kids & live in Tacoma, Washington

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lolajessup

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posted 17th Jan

<blockquote>Quoting endless possibilities:" thanks ladies"</blockquote>

Did u figure anything out after sleeping on it?

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I have 2 kids & 1 angel baby & live in Beaverton, Michigan

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posted 17th Jan

Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote>Quoting endless possibilities:" thanks ladies"</blockquote> Did u figure anything out after sleeping on it?"

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I'm due November 9th, have 6 kids & live in Tacoma, Washington

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lolajessup

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posted 17th Jan

<blockquote>Quoting endless possibilities:" well, I spoke with him, and I spoke with her again. I actually spoke with her first about it. She was ... [snip!] ... have to earn my trust back, and I am just going to have to stop obsessing and worrying about the past. We need a fresh start."</blockquote>

Good luck sweetie. If I still lived in Tacoma id come give u hugs it does take time to earn trust. But at least he was willing to talk to you and not get all crazy and defensive so that shows something.

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posted 17th Jan

you know what I think hurts the most right now? that he talked to her about our relationship.

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