How to cope

Hi I am 9 weeks pregnant and i decided that terminating the pregnancy is the right decision for me. I took the first pill yesterday and what i didn't expect was how hard it is and how sad it makes me feel knowing that my baby is not alive inside of me anymore. I read so many things on what to expect tomorrow (on pain and all) but what i didnt find is how you cope with the thought of it all. how did you girls get though the mental pain???

I'm sorry you are going through this. I have never had one but all I can do is say I'm here for moral support. Just keep reminding yourself why it was better this way.

Thank you that means a lot

No problem, there are a lot of women on here who have been through it. I hope you find the peace you are looking for.

Quoting Devil's Advocate:" No problem, there are a lot of women on here who have been through it. I hope you find the peace you are looking for."

this!

If you need someone to talk to at all... Please talk to me.   I know how that feeling. I got an abortion 4 years ago. I tried for the baby. I realize now that I wouldnt have gotten anywhere had I kept the baby. I went through a lot when I took the pill. I grieved and I still feel pain knowing what I did. <3 Just remember that you are doing this for yourself and its for the best.

Sorry for your loss. I thought the cut off was 8 weeks though?

Quoting Monkey Nuts:" Sorry for your loss. I thought the cut off was 8 weeks though?"

In the UK is up to 9 weeks

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" this! If you need someone to talk to at all... Please talk to me.   I know how that feeling. I got ... [snip!] ... and I still feel pain knowing what I did. <3 Just remember that you are doing this for yourself and its for the best. "

Thank you. I need people like you girls around me now, because you know what im going through. When i took the pill I didn't expect that it will be so hard. And i cant really talk to my friends about it coz nobody knows.

Quoting Rose1993:" Hi I am 9 weeks pregnant and i decided that terminating the pregnancy is the right decision for me. I ... [snip!] ... and all) but what i didnt find is how you cope with the thought of it all. how did you girls get though the mental pain??? "

I took the pill with my 1st abortion. I would never recommend that to anyone :-/ It does suck, it's a lot more emotionally and physically trying. I'm very sorry you have to go thru it. Just keep telling yourself it's the best thing and hang in there....

Quoting Monkey Nuts:" Sorry for your loss. I thought the cut off was 8 weeks though?"

It's 7 weeks in most places in the US

Quoting Rose1993:" Thank you. I need people like you girls around me now, because you know what im going through. When ... [snip!] ... When i took the pill I didn't expect that it will be so hard. And i cant really talk to my friends about it coz nobody knows. "

My husband was with me when I did it. He wasn't very easy to talk to about it. He let me go thru everything alone, upstairs in the bedroom. I just cried and cried for 2 days and he didn't say much of anything the whole time, which really hurt. And it does hurt when you can't talk to anyone else about it. Thank the lord for baby gaga. It will be ok, trust me, it takes time to get over it but eventually you'll be able to find a peace. If you're like me, you act as if it never happened...you don't forget it but you block out the parts of it happening.

Quoting {{Expecting #3}}:" My husband was with me when I did it. He wasn't very easy to talk to about it. He let me go thru everything ... [snip!] ... a peace. If you're like me, you act as if it never happened...you don't forget it but you block out the parts of it happening."

It was the most horrible experience i ever had in my life. The pain was unbearable and i could feel my baby just leaving my body. The guy i was with is no help. he didnt even ask how i was doing, like it never happened. for him is easy just because he is a guy and i had to go thru this alone.

Quoting {{Expecting #3}}:" It's 7 weeks in most places in the US"

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