Today's Dr. Phil show inspired this post. It's also something i've seen lately far too many times...
Violent, dangerous and angry teenagers. Sometimes there is a deep rooted issue and the teen in question needs help. Most of the time, these kids are in their twenties, still live at home, have no chores, responsibilities, etc... Their parents give them money, and they have the audacity to complain when they can't or cuss them out when they don't get their way. It all just makes me very angry. I mean, wtf are they complaining about? On the other hand, it is their parents fault in the first place for allowing this and basically giving into their every whim. It's just crazy to me the audacity and disrespect so many kids have today.
When I was a kid or teenager, I would have gotten my teeth knocked out & the switch. NOT saying that is right at all. The only thing it did was make me fear my parents. But I would have never even dreamed of saying or doing the things that seem acceptable nowadays.
So I ask, what is a fair ground for these types of situations? What are your rules or plan of action if ever you find yourself having a difficult, angry and disrespectful teenager or young adult like in today's Dr Phil episode?
Here is a little glimpse of the show if you don't know what i'm talking about:
My brother is a lot like that. It's frustrating, he's still sponging off our Mum at 23, no job, no education, no drive to do anything at all. And he is selfish and very violent and abusive when he doesn't get his own way. He is also abusive to his girlfriend.
It's weird because I'm not like that (moved out at 18, have a degree, worked, etc.) but it almost seems like my Mum expected more of me (I don't know if because I'm the oldest or what) and babied my brothers, never expected more of them than what they do now.
I'm just kind of hoping I can learn from that and not repeat it. While I know it's not 'all Mum's fault' or anything, some of the things she did must have contributed as we turned out differently and were treated differently.
No clue. I was super goody goody as a teen but my 4 ish yr old has mr dreading her teen years. I have probs w her attitude and disrespect now so kinda afraid of the future. My 2 ish yr old is prolly gonna go super straight or be the seething angry stuff it down and explode type. that scares me worse than the 4 yr old! I just don't know how ill handle it but I think bout it almost every day.
Honestly, I don't put up with that smurf from my 5 year old, no way would my 15 think it's ok. Smurf would get nipped pretty quick. Hard to be ungrateful when you only get the bare necessities because of your attitude.
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