Sometimes I feel isolated, but other times I like just being home with me and my son and not having to worry about doing anything or entertain anyone. But other times it really sucks staying cooped up in the house.

Quoting Ryloonjimama:" Yes... so much so that I feel like the biggest social retard. I have my own car but I have no friends... ... [snip!] ... intense fear of rejection... like I don't like myself much, so I think "why the hell would somebody else want to be my friend?""

i feel like you took the thoughts right out of my head! that is all i have ever wanted and i can't understand why i am so miserable now that i have it..

I have moments where I feel isolated but I do try to get out as much as possible. I go to a moms group every Wednesday where they offer free child care . Then there's story time at the library where I get to see some of my mom friends. My girls also have dance class where I get time with a few moms as well. I also have woman's meetings from my church once a month . They only time I feel isolated is when my kids get sick or were not able to get out to are normal places .

Hubby doesn't understand that he gets to go out of the home and talk to normal people while I sit here and try to talk to a 14 month old and an 8 year old. I mean I need that adult interactions and that's why as soon as he gets home his poor ear is ringing with me talking to him NON-STOP. Lately though I have had mommy dates with my friends. One of my friends took me to lunch and we were out of the house for 3 hours. I want more of them.

I stayed home with Christopher for the first two years and went to work for the first time when he was two yrs exactly. I wish I could have stayed home with him...I would have rather felt "isolated" than to be at work because I miss him everyday I am at work...it isn't worth the whole "socialization" factor.

Quoting I♡C.:" I stayed home with Christopher for the first two years and went to work for the first time when he was ... [snip!] ... felt "isolated" than to be at work because I miss him everyday I am at work...it isn't worth the whole "socialization" factor."

It was worth it too me.
I ended up working too much, so I cut down and found the perfect balance of working and being home with DD.
It was a lot harder to enjoy my time with her when I was a SAHM from being so depressed all the time.

Quoting Vivian [♥]:" It was worth it too me. I ended up working too much, so I cut down and found the perfect balance of ... [snip!] ... and being home with DD. It was a lot harder to enjoy my time with her when I was a SAHM from being so depressed all the time."

I guess it depends on the whole factor of how much socialization does the mama really need? I didn't need much and I hung with mama friends and did play dates a few mornings a week..that was good enough for me. I miss him so much and the SAHM that wish to go to work need to realize just how hard it really is being away from baby. Their are mamas who would kill to stay home with their little ones  

<blockquote><b>Quoting I♡C.:</b>" I guess it depends on the whole factor of how much socialization does the mama really need? I didn't ... [snip!] ... realize just how hard it really is being away from baby. Their are mamas who would kill to stay home with their little ones  "</blockquote>


What you described is not isolation to me... before my youngest started preschool last week, I barely left the house. I see no one besides kids, SO & brother who lives with me but he doesn't talk much. &Sometimes I see my mum or SO's family but they don't visit us because we "live too far away." Even though they live the same distance from us & don't have to cart around small children.

Even just taking him to preschool and having a chat with the teachers lifted my spirits for the day.

Yes. I miss having 'me' time. I can't even go out and go for a walk/run and i barely get any time to myself unless my mom is watching DS. But i made my bed and i gotta lie in it. SO is ALWAYS working and is only home 4 days a month so that makes it even worse.