Is it unreasonable? possible tmi

To be more concerned about being close and intimate with my DH then getting off from sex? The reason I ask is because I was upset last night and DH came and held me and we ended up having sex. He stopped in the middle laid down on the bed and said the position wasn't doing any thing for him and after about a minute asked if I wanted to switch positions. Now this kind of upset me because it made me feel like he was only having sex with me to get off. Had he simple asked me while we were still having sex if I wanted to change positions it would had been one thing, but he out right stopped because he wasn't getting off in the position. Am I wrong for being upset about this?

I can't really answer your actual question, but it is very weird of him to stop completely and wait a full minute to try to resume lol Though maybe he felt like you weren't into it and thought you would initiate it yourself if you wanted to continue? Mine will immediately say "this isent working, lets try ____". If he stops for more than 3 seconds he loses his barely boner though so he can't afford to stop long lol

No of course not!! I'd put him on restriction lol!!

It wouldn't bother me.....to me why have sex if you aren't going to get off. But we aren't super intimate unless we are having sex, no cuddling or anything like that after sex. I roll over and go to sleep.

ETA: sent too quick....that doesn't mean it wouldn't be upsetting to others. I would talk to him if it bothers you.

Quoting Mrs. Reynolds:" I can't really answer your actual question, but it is very weird of him to stop completely and wait a ... [snip!] ... lets try ____". If he stops for more than 3 seconds he loses his barely boner though so he can't afford to stop long lol"

Even after he comes he is as hard as when he starts. Its weird. But the whole thing just hurt my feelings. It felt like he might has well said "well this isn't doing anything for me so why waste the energy...". I hadn't got off either I was just enjoying the closeness. I don't get that often.

Quoting Mama Rice:" It wouldn't bother me.....to me why have sex if you aren't going to get off. But we aren't super intimate ... [snip!] ... to sleep. ETA: sent too quick....that doesn't mean it wouldn't be upsetting to others. I would talk to him if it bothers you."

See I crave the intimacy and closeness. I am a very affectionate person and I want to hug and kiss and cuddle all day. Dh knows this. He gets annoyed with how often I tell him I love him.

I understand wanting the closeness more then the sex part. I am lucky to have a husband who likes the small stuff, cuddles, kissing, holding hands and so forth. It would of upset me if he completely stopped sex. I can understand switching positions, but not just stopping completely.

Quoting Mama Rice:" It wouldn't bother me.....to me why have sex if you aren't going to get off."

LOL I'm the same way.

I would just tell him about how it made you feel, Men, unfortunately can have tunnel vision when it comes to sex, Especially if he thought it was a moment of raw passion, not an affectionate venture but a purely sexual one. Explain to him that he should NEVER... NEVER do something like that, I can't imagine a man that would stop in the middle of sex just because he wasn't enjoying it, especially if there was any kind of sign that you WERE. I say whack him on the nose with a newspaper, because he was acting purely like a dog. (Which is unfortunately bound to happen with men, well most men, I am not immune at all, I think back and cringe at some of the things I did when sex was driving my brain.)

I do it all the time..if a position isn't that enjoyable and not doing anything for me I ask to switch....I don't think it's a big deal