time to vent...

i'm getting pretty sick of some of the mums in here slating others for asking for help. isnt that the whole point of this forum so that we can ask others how they dealt with certain issues? i have read quite recently mums getting slated for wanting abit of sleep. well who doesnt need sleep?? you ladies are obviously better than me if you can survive on no sleep whatsoever! i understand they are babies and they dont always sleep but whats the harm in trying to find solutions?! if anything it gives the mother some hope that there may be something to help them get a few hours of sleep.

i would love to meet these perfect mums who never ever make a mistake and survive on no sleep. i for one know that EVERYONE makes a mistake. especially first time mums. that is how we learn. i have been there when my lo refused point blank to sleep for longer than an hour at a time and when i couldn't calm her down as she had colic. i was willing to try anything. somethings might have been the wrong thing to do but i did them. until you have been in that situation you cant judge anyone else for it! everyone has a point where they need to maybe leave there crying baby for a few minutes before they completely go mad or to go to the bathroom or something. a one off time does NOT damage a baby. it is more beneficial to leave your child for a few minutes crying to get yourself together than to try dealing with a constantly crying baby when you are very much sleepdeprived and stressed!

you ladies can slate this post as much as you like and call me a bad mother but i dont really care. i know that i would move heaven and earth for my baby and the smile on her face tells me that she is happy and that is all i need! if you want to slate others go somewhere else.

a stressed out mum does not need to hear that they are a failure or a bad mum.

end rant!

Do you feel better now?

I totally agree with you!!!! I am a first time mom and sometime need help and sdvice or just someone to talk to and this forum is suppose to be for that. Not to bring eachother down. We all need sleep and I'm sorry there is NO such thing as a perfect mother..lol They THINK they are..lol

hehe, yep, i just really needed to get that off my chest  

Wah wah wah. I've never seen someone bash another mom for being tired or whatever your bitching about. Its usually trolls or when people act stupid then they get bashed.

I don't think you are using "slate" properly....

<blockquote><b>Quoting jessies mum:</b>" hehe, yep, i just really needed to get that off my chest  "</blockquote>



That's great, now don't expect anything to change.

If you don't like what's said in the forums, nobody is begging you to stay.

Quoting :*:CHRiSTiNe:*::" Wah wah wah. I've never seen someone bash another mom for being tired or whatever your bitching about. Its usually trolls or when people act stupid then they get bashed."

i take it your one of the perfect mothers on here then? have you never done something stupid? i bet you have. you just dont tell people on here. i have seen alot of mums get told to 'deal with it' when they complain about not getting any sleep as they have a baby. the last time i checked having a baby didnt mean you dont sleep ever again!

WOW...people are just trying to push your buttons just ignore it.

Quoting jessies mum:" i take it your one of the perfect mothers on here then? have you never done something stupid? i bet ... [snip!] ... about not getting any sleep as they have a baby. the last time i checked having a baby didnt mean you dont sleep ever again!"

No, but it is expected that for the first little while (or several months) that sleep will be elusive.

Quoting Amy Lynn07:" WOW...people are just trying to push your buttons just ignore it."

i know. if it makes them feel better then leave them to it. i just dont think any one needs to be told the are a bad mum for asking for help.

plus if they are being like that with me hopefully they are giving one of the vunerable mums on here a break  

Quoting speaktruth2powr:" No, but it is expected that for the first little while (or several months) that sleep will be elusive."

maybe but if you could find a way to improve it even slightly i'm sure you would

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" No, but it is expected that for the first little while (or several months) that sleep will be elusive."</blockquote>




Yeah but it does suck. Women should be able to vent about it here, I think

A lot of the ones I have noticed that are bitchy are the ones TTC or really pregnant...lol or just plain out mean for entertainment.

Oh yeah.... Been there  survived on 3 hours sleep per night for months on end + even at that it was 3 broken hours spread throughout the night. I was always close to tears. My now 8 month old DD has severe acid reflux since birth, had awful colic as well for about 4 months, rarely slept, constant teething (still no tooth now) constant crying + screaming (she used to get hoarse for about a day every so often so would whinge instead) + she was always over tired + extremely angry nearly all the time. I was nearly pulling my hair out at times. All my doc did was shrug, blame the reflux + change my daughters meds etc nothing really helped. I'm a single mother with some support for which I'm grateful, a lot of the time my mother would just call, take the baby + I'd pass out on the bed for a few hours. Bad times. DD is settling finally thank god, while not sleeping right through exactly (wakes a few times to whinge + complain but always goes back to sleep) it's so much better than it was. Still with reflux but I think I'm seeing an improvement. I'm hoping it stops soon. Looking back now I don't know I coped with so little sleep or with such an angry baby. She's much happier now thank god, still whingey at times but not much screaming. Im sure ill never want another one lol but I know a few people who swore blind they were done with having babies + went on to have more!