Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" Set the goals for yourself & try your best(not just for your child but for yourself) look at it as you ... [snip!] ... next time around for yourself. Know that it is for you & not because you are trying to make a difference between your children"i just feel that it would be giving one child more than the other...
Quoting ℳonster's ℳom:" I set such high goals for me with DD and I failed so bad with them it put me into a deeper PPD. I think with future children I'll know to not be so freaking hard on myself."i stopped BF at 3 wks when i was aiming for at least 6 months. i still look back and wish i'd stuck with it. esp when i'm struggling with DD. i feel bad even saying this but i feel like we're not as bonded as we should be...
Quoting Tay L:" <blockquote><b>Quoting LilyRain12:</b>" i stopped BF at 3 wks when i was aiming for ... [snip!] ... another kid in the future that I would be doing something wrong. Like it would be bad to give second child more than first."i was told it releases endorphin's that make you feel good. it just felt so stressful. instead of bonding, i ended feeling slightly cheated because i was isolated (i only felt comfortable BF in front of my own mother- live with MIL). that is one thing i want to get over. i also feel i loose my temper with her to easily/quickly then feel bad about it.
Quoting Tay L:" I'm constantly stressed! BF was even more stressful, sat there pumping for nothing and he would scream ... [snip!] ... of my on the bed, he can see me, I give him a paci, and I even touch his hand or face or stomach so he knows I'm still there."how old is he? DD is like that. what has been aggravating me is the screaming. she screams for food, sees us making it and screams louder, to top it off, she screams at us while we feed her. even when its her fault we're not giving her a bite (she's not paying attention or has stuck her hands in it and needs to be wiped off so she doesn't wipe it in her hair). then when she's done and we sit down to eat, she screams for our food. so i totally feel ya on the screaming part. she has also started fits early. throwing herself back, screaming, hitting us or hitting her face or anything next to her when we tell her no or take something from her.
Quoting Tay L:" <blockquote><b>Quoting LilyRain12:</b>" how old is he? DD is like that. what has been ... [snip!] ... it with out my help he flips out and gets all pissed off. I don't see why I have to do everything by myself, yet he doesn't."DH was like that. he's gotten a lot better. he still does it occasionally though. for example, i can get DD in the shower with me. i set her in her tub while i wash myself, then take her diaper off, bathe her, set her in her tub while i dry off, get dressed, dry her, get her dressed all on my own. yet when he bathes her, someone else has to get her undressed, then come get her when he's done and get her dressed. when he worked, i had to do everything and would ask for a little help when he got home because i was tired and stressed from dealing with her all day, but it was just asking too much. we take turns on poopy diapers, but i'll change 3 in a row, say its his turn and he changes her and thinks the next is mine. ppl make me feel like smurf about it. saying she's more of my priority, but i didn't make her myself. it really pisses me off. MIL says he does a lot with DD but she's not home all day to see. most of the time he just does stuff because she's home. or she has him doing other stuff and i get no help at all from him (she seems to think that her helping makes up for that. i can't get her to realize that's not the point).
Quoting LilyRain12:" i just feel that it would be giving one child more than the other..."
Quoting Tay L:" <blockquote><b>Quoting LilyRain12:</b>" DH was like that. he's gotten a lot better. ... [snip!] ... won't call back. She and his brother called to wish him a merry christmas, new year/happy birthday. And he didn't call back.)"well, at least he's not just avoiding telling them. seems like he just doesn't care to have anything to do with them.