Quoting Baby_Majick:" thats not so bad, she thinks they need to clean up in it... with soap and I totally disagree I even ... [snip!] ... disagree I even found a website... I hope she reads it... because I don't like making them use soap up in their vaginal areas."
Oh no thats to much and can cause infection. She should be respecting your wishes as their parent.
the only time i clean up in it with soap is during the heavy days of my period and after anal sex. I use the summers eve wash though and tons of rinsing.