S&L: I cried over the miscarriage

Having a baby at this time was notttttt in the cards and I know it would have been so hard to take care, but I started actually becoming excited. I told his family and my mom so they would have time to adjust to the idea, and then everyone got really excited. A new baby in the family, everyone kept saying.

I had figured out when I would have the baby shower, when I was going to take time off for school, and worked everything out. I know I shouldn't have started telling people but I didn't even think of the possibility that I would lose it. I've NEVER had a miscarriage before, plus I'm young, I don't smoke or take any medications, I don't even drink soda!

So when I started cramping and bleeding I knew it wasn't normal.

Well it was confirmed I am definitely not pregnant anymore. I cried in the office, she remembered me, and said she thought I wasn't going to keep it, and I told her about how I actually started to become ok with it. I think she felt for me.

:'( It's crazy because I honestly was done having kids, and while I should be looking at this as my get-out-of-jail free card, I'm feeling almost like... less than a woman.. like why did I lose the baby? What about my body did this baby not like?

Ugh, I am going to get my new birth control and in a way this is probably for the best.. I just wish I knew why I lost the baby, and wish I hadn't gotten happy for it...

I've cried for 2 days but I think I'm ok now for the most part....

Just had to get this out.. I don't really have anyone I can talk to about this.

I cried for days after my mc.  hope you get to feeling well soon.

  I'm sorry.

I think it's normal to be upset over a loss whether you wanted to be happy about it or not. I'm sorry.

  sorry for your loss

I'm sorry for your loss. And it does hurt, no matter what you tell yourself.
It will take time, but it will get better.
I had 2 in 4 months, and the second was just after my husband deployed. I still cry over them both, especially the second. And I know I will continue until he and I can overcome it together.
Know that you have the support of the ladies here if you need it.

I'm sorry that you're dealing with this. When things happen, even if we know they're for the best and that in the long run will be what we "needed", it's still upsetting

  I'm so sorry.

I'm so sorry youre going through this, I have been there and I have thought all of those thoughts before and it is just so hard to deal with. There is nothing anyone can say to make it better, I just hope you find peace with it. *hugs*

They aren't easy. You should cry. Get it out and really, it doesn't matter how far along you were or not, it is a grieving process. You start getting used to the idea of being pregnant then, you get excited about it and the planning starts. We as mothers do that. It is in us. When we lose the pregnancy, the first thought is why? What did I do wrong? Truth is, they just happen. You never know when or how. It is not like we walk thru life with a crystal ball.

I have had 5. They are all a shock each time. Of course, I became a little more numb as they went along but that is because I have a different journey. Either way, when your hormones crash as fast as they do and your emotional hopes are shattered it is a hard pill to swallow.

Grieve how you need and know that all happens as it should when it should. ~hugs

I'm sorry Christi...

Im so sorry <3 Im always here if you need to talk.

I'm sorry for your loss  

I felt the same way when I found out I was unexpectedly pg a 3rd time and never dreamed I'd lose a pg. Just after I was finally excited about the idea of being a mom to 3, I had a m/c.

I'm so sorry sweetie... I know it was unexpected, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't have been excited. I hate when people say "maybe this was for the best" or "everything happens for a reason"...and I hate that I don't have any more positive words for you. I hope you can find peace in all this

It's a good thing to let yourself feel and cry for the loss. Whether it was a planned pregnancy or not I'd assume most women feel how you feel.
I had a miscarriage pretty far into an unplanned bc conceived pregnancy and the situation it happened in was totally smurffy and completely not ideal. I cried my eyes out for weeks despite all of that. It will be 7yrs next month and I've recently come terms with it all.

I hope you feel better soon.