re: S&L: I cried over the miscarriage

I appreciate the words you guys... seriously. It's so hard because I'm so tough on the outside to everyone, I don't allow people to see me upset, so everyone thinks I'm taking this so well, and yeah the "oh look now you won't have to rearrange your schedule" stuff is particularly hurtful...

Yeah I would have only missed 2 months of school, that's not really a huge deal. :/ But thanks. Just as bad as everything happens for a reason.

Ugh, honestly I think I'm handling it ok... but its nice to hear these things from you guys... At least here I don't need this tough exterior, and can be open about what I'm feeling..

like right now...   I miss this baby. Not enough to TRY for one, but I didn't want it to die....

Quoting Ur Local Frnt Desk Clrk:" I appreciate the words you guys... seriously. It's so hard because I'm so tough on the outside to everyone, ... [snip!] ... about what I'm feeling.. like right now...   I miss this baby. Not enough to TRY for one, but I didn't want it to die.... "

you can definitely vent here <3

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ur Local Frnt Desk Clrk:</b>" Having a baby at this time was notttttt in the cards and I know it would have been so hard to take care, ... [snip!] ... but I think I'm ok now for the most part.... Just had to get this out.. I don't really have anyone I can talk to about this. "</blockquote>



Most miscarriages are genetic combination anomalies wherein the fetus is not viable. It is not your fault. These things happen, more than we even know.

It is hard, I know. I've had two miscarriages myself.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ur Local Frnt Desk Clrk:</b>" Having a baby at this time was notttttt in the cards and I know it would have been so hard to take care, ... [snip!] ... but I think I'm ok now for the most part.... Just had to get this out.. I don't really have anyone I can talk to about this. "</blockquote>


I'm sorry you're hurting so much:-(.

And miscarry ing doesn't make you "less of a woman." Working your ass off and putting your children before yourself is what makes women out of any female that's birthed a child. You take care of your daughters, you work hard for them and despite your set-backs you never.give.up!

Believe me hon, you are all the woman you need to be(hugs)

I'm sorry for your loss. Whether you were all for having another baby or not it still hurts because it is our baby and our bodies. I've had 3 three miscarriages and one was never easier then the other. I felt the same way too and thought my body was damaged or something was wrong with me but I've had two healthy children so I know I'm not "broken". You are not less then a woman and if you do ever decide to have another child, you will.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ur Local Frnt Desk Clrk:</b>" Having a baby at this time was notttttt in the cards and I know it would have been so hard to take care, ... [snip!] ... but I think I'm ok now for the most part.... Just had to get this out.. I don't really have anyone I can talk to about this. "</blockquote>

Awwh hun :'(

What you're feeling is perfectly normal after a miscarriage. It was a precious new life and its only natural to wonder why and what happened. We recently suffered our first miscarriage in December. We weren't planning another baby just yet and I was just tracking my cycles and oops I Od between days. We found out I was pregnant and although I was terrified it was too soon after the mirena we were still excited and even started planning. We told people too, even though something told me to wait for a bit. Then I felt funny for a few days and peed on a leftover stick and had almost nothing show up....that night I started bleeding.

DH and I cried for days and I couldn't understand why. Why was I so upset when I barely even knew or why did the baby not thrive inside me. I had been doing everything right and it just didn't stick and it broke my heart. For the first couple of days I was set on never wanting anymore children but after I got my anger out and the sadness I started moving on.

Give yourself time mama. Your body is still healing from everything and your mind is going from "we are going to have another in the family" to "we aren't" and it takes a while to wrap your head around it. Who knows maybe you will find another time a few years down the road to welcome another to the family? Maybe this little bean was a way of saying "hey maybe you aren't done after all?" Who knows. Just keep positive and go with the flow of your feelings. If you need to scream and cry do it, if. You need to a quiet moment to yourself then take it.

If you need anyone to vent to please feel free to msg me  

Oh, Christi. I'm so sorry it happened. I had no idea.   I know I've been a smurffy friend lately, but don't ever think you can't talk to me about it. <3

Very sorry for your loss momma.