Hyper sexual behavior

My 8 year old had had some problems in the past with some extremely inappropriate sexual behaviors. My husband and I have talked it out with him, and we have him seeing a therapist.

Within the past three weeks, however, his problems have began to resurface and I am worried.

When the girls are bathing he constantly intrudes and leers at them refusing to leave. I am quick to rush him out and send him off to his room. Then we always talk it out after.

My 19 month old has just become fully potty trained. The girls sometimes go into the bathroom and clap or cheer her on still. I catch my boy silently staring at her offering no support. Just again, leering in almost a menacing manner.

Three days ago after he had just come I was watching the kids on cam while my husband and I were taking a bath. We saw my son basically masturbating while sitting next to his sisters who were playing with toys.

I don't know what to do. His past problems involved him inappropriately touching his sisters and exposing himself at school. I love him very deeply, yet this behavior is so frightening to me I just don't know what more I can do.

We have safety nets- spy cams, door chimes and media. We discuss with the children safe touches and bad touches. I feel like we re doing and have done everything we can to teach him morality and about sexuality as reasonable for his age.

What more can I do? Have any of you ever had similar problems? Please, and thoughts or suggestions would be helpful.

honestly , it seems as if he may just be curious about the opposite sex

If I could I would probably put him in out patient therapy. If you're doing all you can and he's still a threat to your girls, what more can you do?

Quoting HotMom21ERF:" honestly , it seems as if he may just be curious about the opposite sex"

Creeping his sisters private parts, then masturbating next to them goes WAY beyond curiosity.

What does the therapist say? Gosh I would be so creeped out by that.   I'm sorry you're all going through this.

Quoting Rd.:" Creeping his sisters private parts, then masturbating next to them goes WAY beyond curiosity."

i mean, he was actually masturbating? idk, its just hard to believe that an 8 yr old could show this behavior.

Quoting Rd.:" Creeping his sisters private parts, then masturbating next to them goes WAY beyond curiosity."

I agree.

I was curious as a child too but never would have thought about wanting to touch or stare at my own brother.

Quoting Love Wedge +2:" I agree. I was curious as a child too but never would have thought about wanting to touch or stare at my own brother."

thats true

<blockquote><b>Quoting HotMom21ERF:</b>" honestly , it seems as if he may just be curious about the opposite sex"</blockquote>




I can understand this. However, I did not fully divulge his background history.

He anally and vaginally (with fingers) penetrated his 4 year old sister last year. He also barricaded his five year old sister 1&1/2-2 yrs ago in her room demanded felatio, and when she refused he hit herrepeatwdly and threatened her if she told. He has another little half sister that he sees on the weekend. He told us he had also touched her.

His behavior is not explorative. It has been malicious in nature. Both my daughters were devestated, scared, hurt, and worried about getting in trouble and getting Hirt further by him.

Wow, I think you're right to be concerned and being a great, proactive parent to get involved before a really serious consequence occurs as a result of this behavior. I think this is a bigger problem than what you can tackle on your own without an advanced child psychology degree. Talk to your kids therapist and tell them that behaviors are escalating/cropping back up.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Safka9973:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting HotMom21ERF:</b>" </blockquote>




Holy smurf. Did he get in any trouble like juvie? Where the hell did he learn that?

Quoting Safka9973:" <blockquote><b>Quoting HotMom21ERF:</b>" honestly , it seems as if he may just be curious ... [snip!] ... nature. Both my daughters were devestated, scared, hurt, and worried about getting in trouble and getting Hirt further by him."

omg. he needs to be an inpatient somewhere. you can not have him around your daughters

Quoting Rd.:" Creeping his sisters private parts, then masturbating next to them goes WAY beyond curiosity."

I think you need to intervene when this happens. I would keep him away from the girls during bathing and bathroom time. This will be extra work for you.

Quoting StinkyPossumLover!:" Wow, I think you're right to be concerned and being a great, proactive parent to get involved before ... [snip!] ... an advanced child psychology degree. Talk to your kids therapist and tell them that behaviors are escalating/cropping back up."

Ask him/her what they suggest in terms of getting your son more help. He needs more than what he's currently getting.

Quoting Safka9973:" <blockquote><b>Quoting HotMom21ERF:</b>" honestly , it seems as if he may just be curious ... [snip!] ... nature. Both my daughters were devestated, scared, hurt, and worried about getting in trouble and getting Hirt further by him."

Honestly, I'd put him in an inpatient facility...