Vent: After being in denial so long..

Today I went to the local pregnancy refuge for an ultrasound after a positive test last Friday. I was so in denial being pregnant again I waited until I couldn't anymore :/ horrible idea. I was to the point of feeling fetal movement already so I knew I was pretty far. Today I went in to get a due date and a comfirmation of pregnancy for my Dr... I came out with results I never expected in a lifetime. So you know I'm 19, with two kids. A 3 year old daughter and a year old son.. So any news wouldn't be the best for my situation... I learned I am 22 weeks and due May 18. I was fine with that until she kept going and discovered yet another baby. Knowing my luck, I'm prengnant with twins. ugh. I'm supposed to be excited I guess but now I'm so stressed out. I'm really hoping on get my tubes tied after I deliver. I'm going to be 19 with 4 kids. I have so much support even I got pregnant yet again.

Any moms that had kids already and then had twins have any advice at all? I know what I'm going to go through won't be easy or anything close to it. I just need advice at this point.  

Have you thought about adoption?

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Have you thought about adoption? "

I honestly did this time but I don't think I could it.

Honestly you said it yourself you knew you were pregnant for a while but you ignored it. It is a lot to handle on your own and from the sounds of it you seem like you will be alone again. Have you thought about or talked to anyone about adoption??

I've never had twins...I can't imagine it's easy at any age, let alone 19 with two other kids. Is the father involved? Have you considered adoption?

Oh wow that's insane. Congrats and good luck!

Quoting Marissaaaa.:" I honestly did this time but I don't think I could it."

I misread you have support. Well then if your choice is to keep get all the help you can and do your best. A lot of people struggle, and if you have done it with your other two kids then you will be ok with 2 more. Just stay strong, it will be rough, but god never gives you more than you can handle.

Quoting Marissaaaa.:" I honestly did this time but I don't think I could it."

Ok think of it this way... 19 with 4 kids.... struggling with everything. Or 19 with 2 kids and have a decent life and watch the other 2 grow up and have a decent life also.

Quoting Marissaaaa.:" Today I went to the local pregnancy refuge for an ultrasound after a positive test last Friday. I was ... [snip!] ... advice at all? I know what I'm going to go through won't be easy or anything close to it. I just need advice at this point.  "

good luck hun. my best friend in HS didnt wanna believe she was pregnant.... and she had twins after not telling anyone about her whole pregnancy!! she now has twins and a little girl, and honey trust me.... YOU CAN DO IT. it may be hard but it can be done.

Quoting FutureMRSmama:" Honestly you said it yourself you knew you were pregnant for a while but you ignored it. It is a lot ... [snip!] ... and from the sounds of it you seem like you will be alone again. Have you thought about or talked to anyone about adoption??"

The whole time I didn't say anything was because I didn't know what to do. I was tossing between adoption and keeping the baby but I just feel it would hurt me more to let them be adopted. It will be hard no doubt about it. especially at 19. I have my mom and the dad but I just don't know. I feel so down right now.

I don't have twins but I had my first baby at 17, my second at 19, my third at 22, and I am having my 4th at 24. It's hard, but it can be done. Takes a lot more work to support your family but it's worth it. Working, full time college student, mom, wife, and ALWAYS tired. But I wouldn't change it.

Quoting Marissaaaa.:" The whole time I didn't say anything was because I didn't know what to do. I was tossing between adoption ... [snip!] ... It will be hard no doubt about it. especially at 19. I have my mom and the dad but I just don't know. I feel so down right now."

It will be hard no matter what you decide, but you have to make the best decision for you and your children. I don't want to sound harsh but are you working, do you support the kids? Are you struggling now? They are the factors you have to worry about, because 2 more babies doubles the cost and the stress. It will be rough, but it can be done. It comes down to how you feel and what you want to do. All decisions in the situation are hard. Good luck,

Quoting Marissaaaa.:" The whole time I didn't say anything was because I didn't know what to do. I was tossing between adoption ... [snip!] ... It will be hard no doubt about it. especially at 19. I have my mom and the dad but I just don't know. I feel so down right now."

Yes it would hurt that they were adopted. But I think you would better right now... I know it seems like I am pushing adoption on you, but Im giving you something to think about. I am a birthmom.

Quoting FutureMRSmama:" It will be hard no matter what you decide, but you have to make the best decision for you and your ... [snip!] ... but it can be done. It comes down to how you feel and what you want to do. All decisions in the situation are hard. Good luck,"

I completely agree.

Oh wow..

You're only 22 weeks, you can still haven an abortion. That's what I would do.

Having 4 kids while you are still a kid yourself... single... poor .. uneducated... its terrible, and so irresponsible to put your 2 living children in a position to have even less of a life and resources than they already have.

im really sorry you're in this position... i feel so bad for your kids.