re: Vent: After being in denial so long..

Quoting Kayleigh-louise Moran:" I agree, I'm having my first and I'm only 19.But 4 children/How long will it be before she has her 5th, 6th?"

I don't know, wouldnt your advice then be, make sure to get your tubes tied, or here are birth control options. not KILL your babies because you dont me my societal standards and requirements.

Quoting Kayleigh-louise Moran:" I agree, I'm having my first and I'm only 19.But 4 children/How long will it be before she has her 5th, 6th?"

ESPECIALLY since in some states they dont tie your tubes until a certain age. NO MATTER how many kids you have.

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" You had ONE.. not 4.... "

yes I did but I also have single friends that cant do half of my schedule if they tried and they have no husband no kids and still live at home with mom and dad. IF you want something you get it, if you try you succeed. We cant change the fact that she has 4 kids. What we can do is educate her on options she would consider then ways to avoid this in the futue because aparently no one else has tried.

Quoting FutureMRSmama:" I don't know, wouldnt your advice then be, make sure to get your tubes tied, or here are birth control options. not KILL your babies because you dont me my societal standards and requirements."

So she has the baby because she doesn't believe in abortion, then her, her current children and this baby suffer.

Quoting Kayleigh-louise Moran:" So she has the baby because she doesn't believe in abortion, then her, her current children and this baby suffer."

How do you know they would suffer? You don't what you do know is you don't believe in it. You know like all of us it will be hard, but you cannot change it now correct? So give advice that is useful for prevention in the future.

Quoting FutureMRSmama:" How do you know they would suffer? You don't what you do know is you don't believe in it. You know like ... [snip!] ... all of us it will be hard, but you cannot change it now correct? So give advice that is useful for prevention in the future."

She probably got help after the first time she got pregnant... Now she got pregnant a second time NOW she is pregnant for the 3rd time and sheis 19...

I see many of you mothers points. No, I won't abort. Yes I know I'm stupid to get pregnant yet again which doesn't affect you one bit. I could understand if I was sucking the government dry like many families do but I don't. I'm irresponible yes for letting myself get pregnant again but I'm willing to take care of all 4. My children won't suffer or go without. Like I said, I'm not lazy or disabled. I can work. My ex also. We are young but we can do this. Yes I do plan on tying my tubes after this pregnancy. I have been told that it is possible since I am 19 and this will be my 3rd and 4th children. Otherwise I'd have to be 25 with at least two. I don't plan to be the best at this or be perfect. No one is. Life doesn't come with instructions. I am doing the best I can. Whether anyone likes it or not. I asked for advice on having twins after already having kids. Hell yes it is hard having kids at 19 but I won't let this ruin anyone's life. I'm not you. You're not the 19 year old with two and pregnant with twins. I count my blessings not my mistakes. You all can do as you please in life and I can also. I could understand all the harsh judgement if I was some part of your lives but I'm not.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Marissaaaa.:</b>" I see many of you mothers points. No, I won't abort. Yes I know I'm stupid to get pregnant yet again ... [snip!] ... as you please in life and I can also. I could understand all the harsh judgement if I was some part of your lives but I'm not. "</blockquote>

Well said!!  

Yes it was irresponsible to get pregnant again, but we ALL make mistakes right? You sound very mature for your age. I was a first time mum at 19 and I struggled with one. I'm now 27 with 3 and there are still times we struggle. But you do what you have to do for your kids and you get through it. Being a mother is hard, no matter how old you are, or how many kids you have.

You will be fine OP. it will be rough some times, but you WILL get through it  

Quoting J&T+3:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Marissaaaa.:</b>" I see many of you mothers points. No, I won't ... [snip!] ... how old you are, or how many kids you have. You will be fine OP. it will be rough some times, but you WILL get through it  "

Thank you for realizing that everyone does wrong. Yes I did more than once but I'm human enough to admit to my mistakes. Some post I get just make me feel more willing to show them I will provide the best I can for my kids and it won't be a horrible teenage mom with 4 kids. I am better than that whether other people see it or not. I am 19. I do make mistakes just like other people. I don't ask for a praise because I am 19 with this many kids but I did ask for advice. If it is so hard for someone to do then just don't post which won't happen. People look for anything to be right about.

Good for you OP for standing up for your mistakes and making mature decisions. In most states the time at which you can tie your tubes is up to the doctor you ask. People told me that I couldn't get my tubes tied until I was 30, but I am 24 and getting my tubes tied because it's my forth baby and my husband doesn't want more children.

Also, I completely agree about abortion. I am 100% pro-life but I never try to cram my beliefs down someone's throat. But I am glad you have decided against abortion. I am however for adoption. I think that would be a wonderful thing for you to do for yourself, your other children, the twins, and an adoptive family. That being said, if you are going to keep them, you should find a GED program while you are still pregnant. It doesn't take long to complete and then after you have the babies maybe you can start some online college courses. Better yourself for your children. Take care and good luck!

Quoting FutureMRSmama:" Adoption is an option, and if she wants to she really could care for 4 kids, she would need help but ... [snip!] ... to work full time with a full time college schedule. Anything can be done. Having my child young didnt effect me that badly."

Which Ivy gave you a scholarship?

That's a lie sweetie... you cant go to college without finishing highschool, or getting "half" of a diploma as you said.

I know a lot of people won't agree with me...but I actually think having 2 more children would be very selfish on your current children and on the unborn.Have you thought about adoption?Lots of nice happy couples out there who would make perfect parents who can't have them.Would be good for the baby's and the couple you'r helping.You could be at ease knowing you'r children are being taken cared of and you haven't had an abortion.You could even do a open adoption.

Quoting FutureMRSmama:" I don't know, wouldnt your advice then be, make sure to get your tubes tied, or here are birth control options. not KILL your babies because you dont me my societal standards and requirements."

oh shut the smurf up with the "kill your babies" crap spewing out of your ugly mouth. no one is killing babies. we're suggesting ending a pregnancy. sounds like something you shoud have considered.

Quoting FutureMRSmama:" yes I did but I also have single friends that cant do half of my schedule if they tried and they have ... [snip!] ... do is educate her on options she would consider then ways to avoid this in the futue because aparently no one else has tried."

she has 2 kids... not 4... nice reading comprehension skills! haha loser.

Quoting shes*almost*one!:" oh shut the smurf up with the "kill your babies" crap spewing out of your ugly mouth. no one is killing babies. we're suggesting ending a pregnancy. sounds like something you shoud have considered."

Better to end a pregnancy then end up a single mum to four children at 19, struggling.