re: Vent: After being in denial so long..

Wow. Umm maybe adoption would be a good idea. You have support so I'm sure you could keep them and raise them. It will be harder than just the 2 you have now, but I think it could be done. You waited this long to find out for sure so idt you're considering abortion. W.e your decision best of luck.

Quoting shes*almost*one!:" Oh wow.. You're only 22 weeks, you can still haven an abortion. That's what I would do. Having 4 ... [snip!] ... less of a life and resources than they already have. im really sorry you're in this position... i feel so bad for your kids. "

For one, Not everyone believes in having an abortion because they get pregnant. I was respoible enough to have sex and therefore I am responible to take on what I have done. Yes, I am single. Doesn't mean he isn't around. No one once said I was poor. I don't need to live off the government like most teens would do because I'm not disabled in anyway. I am able to work. I am not uneducated. I didn't finish high school but I know what I am doing. How am I being soo irresponible? By not aborting children I made by my own acts. I am 19 with two kids yes. Like other moms here have said I have adoption to look toward and also I could keep them with enough support.

Thank You moms for the adoption and keep them support. I respect that most of you didn't mention abortion because I am totally against it. No matter other womens opinions, I do not use that method. Yes I will keep them. It will be hard like you all have mentioned but I can and WILL do this. I have done it to myself. I will be the mom they need

Quoting Marissaaaa.:" Thank You moms for the adoption and keep them support. I respect that most of you didn't mention abortion ... [snip!] ... It will be hard like you all have mentioned but I can and WILL do this. I have done it to myself. I will be the mom they need"

Just remember babies are punishments....

<blockquote><b>Quoting Marissaaaa.:</b>" For one, Not everyone believes in having an abortion because they get pregnant. I was respoible enough ... [snip!] ... two kids yes. Like other moms here have said I have adoption to look toward and also I could keep them with enough support."</blockquote>




Well said!!!!!!! ...and good luck

Quoting shes*almost*one!:" Oh wow.. You're only 22 weeks, you can still haven an abortion. That's what I would do. Having 4 ... [snip!] ... less of a life and resources than they already have. im really sorry you're in this position... i feel so bad for your kids. "

Um. That's two weeks off viability. that's not aborting a fetus, it's aborting a baby. Pretty smurffy thing to suggest to a teen mother who is asking for advice dude.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lucas'Mama:</b>" Um. That's two weeks off viability. that's not aborting a fetus, it's aborting a baby. Pretty smurffy thing to suggest to a teen mother who is asking for advice dude."</blockquote>


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If I was in that position with two children already, I'd definataly consider abortion.Sorry for the spelling mistake, keyboard playing up.How are you planning to bring up 4 children even with a full time job?It would be hard.I'm 19 and expecting my first, I think I'm too young or my first too be honest.

Quoting shes*almost*one!:" Oh wow.. You're only 22 weeks, you can still haven an abortion. That's what I would do. Having 4 ... [snip!] ... less of a life and resources than they already have. im really sorry you're in this position... i feel so bad for your kids. "

I'm pro choice, and I wouldn't even be in favor of an abortion at 22 weeks. That's just... no. Unless it was a rape or the mother or baby were in danger of something. Since that's not the case, I'd put abortion on the back burner.

And who the hell says she's a bad mother because she's young? I've known some amazing young mothers, and some really smurffy mothers who waited until later in life to have children. And I know the lack of resources could be hard, but babies don't need A LOT. I was completely terrified at the beginning of this pregnancy, thinking that we'll be scraping by, and a woman who ran a consignment store and had four kids of her own said to me; "You might be looking at all the expensive things, thinking that's what's best, but when it comes down to it, all a child really needs is you."

OP, you sound like a strong woman, and your kids are LUCKY to have someone like you in their lives. It's going to be hard, like the other mamas said... but I think you'll be just fine, no matter what you chose to do.  

Right jesus, we are talking about 2 babies... she isn't dumb she has 2 kids already she knows how hard it is and how much harder with 2 more.

Quoting FutureMRSmama:" Right jesus, we are talking about 2 babies... she isn't dumb she has 2 kids already she knows how hard it is and how much harder with 2 more."

oh really? she isnt dumb? she's 19, didnt graduate highschool, unmarried, and is about to have FOUR children.. forgive me, but i thought that was basically the definition of dumb. or at least irresponsible.

i typically wouldnt support an abortion this far along, but its still legal, and in her case i would be 100% behind her.

Quoting shes*almost*one!:" oh really? she isnt dumb? she's 19, didnt graduate highschool, unmarried, and is about to have FOUR ... [snip!] ... i typically wouldnt support an abortion this far along, but its still legal, and in her case i would be 100% behind her. "

Its sad, but I totally agree.. I dont support abortion this far along but I support abortion over adoption.

Quoting shes*almost*one!:" oh really? she isnt dumb? she's 19, didnt graduate highschool, unmarried, and is about to have FOUR ... [snip!] ... i typically wouldnt support an abortion this far along, but its still legal, and in her case i would be 100% behind her. "

I'm against abortion apart from for example if the girl was under 16 or it was a rape case, but in this case this is 1 I would support a abortion.Also o.p why wasn't you on contraception before this happened?

Quoting Marissaaaa.:" For one, Not everyone believes in having an abortion because they get pregnant. I was respoible enough ... [snip!] ... two kids yes. Like other moms here have said I have adoption to look toward and also I could keep them with enough support."

you're educated? you didnt finish highschool, but you "know what you're doing"... and what exactly is that? I'll give you an A+ in the subject of getting knocked up!

if you dont want to have an abortion, simply say its not for you and move on.. you dont have to elaborate.

you are a mess. adding two more children to your already unstable, irresponsible life is not fair to any of those children.,

stories like this make me so sad,, for you, the kids, and society in general.

please take this seriously. these aren't dolls, or puppies -- they're real human babies.

Quoting shes*almost*one!:" oh really? she isnt dumb? she's 19, didnt graduate highschool, unmarried, and is about to have FOUR ... [snip!] ... i typically wouldnt support an abortion this far along, but its still legal, and in her case i would be 100% behind her. "

What is dumb is the advice you are giving her, irresponsible yes there is a good choice, but their are other options.